In the worst possible position.

[RockBottom1234]

I'm pregnant by a man that is violent, emotionally abusive and unstable.

I wanted more than anything for it to work.

But the arguments were getting worse and worse. The fighting, the insults, the threats. I was deeply unhappy.

I went away for a weekend with one of my girlfriends and I met someone kind who spoke to me and made me feel better. Happier and less like I'm a failure. Ironically.

We kept in touch. There was a mutual attraction and I confess, we were sexting at one point.

I saw it as a distraction and an escape from reality. I would never have acted on it.

My boyfriend hacked into my computer, which is nothing unusual, and saw our conversations.

I have hurt him. I understand. But he threatened to kill me. He threatened to hurt my family. He calls me scum and hurls insults at me. He thinks we've been sleeping together but we just haven't. It was just a conversation for a few weeks.

My boyfriend and I have been together for as long as I've been pregnant. It was not planned and it was not working.

I am rock bottom.

You need to get away from that man. Do you live together?

Try calling Women's Aid for generally support and advice on how to do so safely.

Even the most phlegmatic of men will be extremely hurt and stressed by discovery of evidence of infidelity, btw. And sexting is - whatever your motivations - widely seen as a form of infidelity in itself. Add an explosive character into the mix and it unravels rapidly, as you are finding out.

The key thing is to stay safe and to get away.

I would suggest speaking to the police but I understand that's easier said than done sometimes. If you believe the threats they are the best people to help safeguard you, your family and the child. If you're unsure or not ready yet an IDVA (independent domestic violence advisor) will be able to support you and offer practical advice. It's a confidential service who can help with housing advice, counselling, benefits, injunctions etc. There should be one where ever you live if you google your local area and IDVA you should be able to find one and self refer.
I hope you're ok x

We were living together. I'm at my mums own

I was with the police all day yesterday. So I feel a lot safer.

TBH I knew it was his pain talking.

I do feel bad but, given the circumstance, am I really the scum bag he says I am?

Is there no reasoning for an unhappy hormonal pregnant women enjoying an escape from a horrible reality?

Why are you with him? Sounds like he makes your life a misery

OP has he hit you?

Is he violent to you?

He was making my life a misery. I wanted it to work out for the baby.

He's never hit me but he used strangulation as a way to move me out of a room.

Then he has been violent. OP, this relationship is toxic and is an awful environment to raise a child.

Would you like your child growing up seeing him verbally abuse you, calling you all the names under the sun and forcing you out the room by your throat?

Would you like to see it happen to them?

You have to walk away. You are not a scumbag. You blossomed when somebody showed you kindness, that makes you human. Leave him Op and do not look back. You and your baby deserve so much more.

Your baby will thank you for a loving and safe home, not for staying with their abusive father.