OK so lots of random thinking going on tonight. and how different and for the better things are compared to no 1.
So I'm looking at the fact my DS is a teen. And expecting DC 2., also have a step child in between.
So random thoughts... 1st how different things will be as obvious I'm a few yrs older too and classed as an older mum Omg lol.. Now without sounding big headed, I honestly found no part of having a newborn difficult and I can honestly say I had very little help from family, partly because I lived other side of town and I didn't drive at the time . my ex worked rota hours anything from 3am till midnight shift work, . And partly because I'm very independent and would of felt a failure if I asked advice, which obviously now I know was my own sully thoughts but luckily I didn't feel the need to?
So thinking this time, I'm older, have a teen to juggle too with things like out of school activities. Dp works most of the hours these run but of he's home he does the running around for some, as the activities are too far for someone not to drive him... Thank God I now drive..
This time round tho, dp works set hours, and would be very hands on as he already is with DS and his DC.
Also this time I live minutes away from my family and dps family are only a ten min drive and again I get on well. Bit I wonder if it would make me feel pushed away, not in a horrible way but because I done literally everything for DS pretty much alone. Whilst this time I know it's not silly to ask for advice and should take rest when I can... And judging by th is pregnancy im shattered constantly but 1st I wasnt..
Also after DS I gave up work for 5 yrs to be with him. However I don't think it would financially work for me to quit and I only do 20 hours a week, which I'm lucky dps family are jumping at the chance to babysit.
Also wonder about days out, how it would occupy a teen, 6 yr old and a tot. Or is my teen likely to say, nah I'll go out with my mates? Although his choice I'd feel bad...
Like I say random thoughts which I'm sure will pan out