Due date in a couple of days. Major stress about gender

[Nainer123]

So im due in a few days. I got told at the 20 week scan we were having a boy then i had a growth scan at 33 weeks, the sonographer asked if i knew what i was having, i said boy and she said his legs were closed but she thought she vould make out a scrotum.

Anyway, now for the past couple of days i cant stop thinking maybe they got it wrong. A family memeber said from my 12 week scan she thought it was a girl and they got it wrong. Now im really streased about it. Everything we have is blue, all the clothes we have are boys, blankets are blue. We have some white things but not a lot at all. I dont know if im just panicking because im close to due date. But its all i can seem to think about. I feel like ive bonded with a boy. Do they get the gender wrong a lot of the time?

I should add at our 20 week scan she did say she couldnt say 100% but she could see clearly it was a boy but had to say yo us she cant say 100%

Oh and i know the 20 week scan isnt about twlling us the gender its a medical examination.

....cant you give a girl blue blankets etc?

I realise your wider point is about bonding with a boy and I don't really have any advice for that, sorry, but I wouldn't think twice about having blue clothes.

They're mostly right but this is the hazard of finding out isn't it? I'm sure you'll be thrilled either way (and prob won't buy so much gender-specific clothing next time)

If the sonograoher told you at 20 weeks that she could clearly see it was a boy, then I would believe her. Very few trained sonograohers will guess at 12 weeks so I doubt your family member had anything to go on at that stage other than some scan pictures. To look for the sex at 20 weeks, the sonographer will have zoomed in between your baby's legs and it is quite clear looking there (you also don't get pictures printed of this angle from a 12 week scan). Whilst there are odd occasions they are wrong, it is very rare.

Don't panic. If it is a dd, she won't grow a penis because you dressed her in blue...

Yes they sometimes get it wrong. No, your DD wouldn't be harmed by wearing blue, I actually really like girls in blue. If you were than fussed you could always go and swap stuff that you haven't removed tags from. People will buy you loads of stuff once the baby is here anyway.

I think its not so much about clothes ect although that has been playig on my mind. Its more about the fact i feel bonded to a baby boy already. Im not even sure where this worry has come from ive not given it a second thought until a few days ago and im hoping its just my mind giving me something other than im about to become a mum for the first time to stress about.

Of course if it turns out to be a girl i will love her, will just take some adjusting.

Honestly, sweetie, just focus on having a healthy child and your own delivery. You will love your child whatever. Your mind probably needs something to focus on.

I have a daughter, and I can assure you it's wonderful. It's like giving birth to your own best friend, As I'm sure is a son.

Soon you will have a gorgeous baby, who cares what colour it's clothes are..

Yes I think your mind is obsessing over this to avoid thinking about the obvious, I did this about names.

If she told you it's a boy, it'll be a boy. It's pretty hard to get that wrong! But if it is any consolation, I didn't find out but was convinced I had a boy and it was a girl and a few weeks after I felt a bit sad about the baby boy I had imagined I was having for about four seconds. But the after my baby was born I felt like my pregnancy was years ago anyway.

Ps I am wearing blue...

Pretty sure I would trust a trained sonographer over the gut feeling of a family member BUT even if they were wrong you'd of course adjust and everything would be fine. You could probably exchange some of the more boyish items. Perhaps you're just feeling anxious in general about your new arrival?

Oh I did this! Didn't find out at the scan, but "knew" in my heart I was having a boy. Referred to him as him and didn't even think about what a girl might be like. Then a couple of days before my due date completely freaked out that I could be wrong!

I wasn't, he's a boy. I think it was just my brain choosing something small to panic about / focus on, so I didn't think about the birth / becoming a parent!

I totally understand how you feel.

With my second pregnancy I was told at my 20 week scan that I was definitely having a boy, great I thought as I had all my son's baby stuff stored in my mum's loft. But as the weeks went on I just had a feeling that they had got it wrong, so convinced was I that in the last month I actually knitted a couple of girly cardigans, mittens & a hat. Guess what I was right I had a girl.

Perfect post from bluntness.

That really.
Congratulations in advance

I just had my 20 week and found out it was a boy but I'm not filled with Confidence. I thought I saw testicles and I asked is it a boy and she said 'mmmm...possibly....

The baby did have its legs together and the sonographer couldn't do the blood vessels checks due to baby's position so I have to go back in 2 weeks. I'll ask again then.

I already have a boy and if it's a girl I'm going to use some of the blue cardigans and blankets etc.my moses basket cover is blue and I just think ahhh fuck it she'll be fine in that rather than changing the bloody colour. She'll still be warm and loved and Asda is only up the road for hubby to pop out for more sheepskins if I really need more.

Sheepskins.

Wtf I meant sleepsuits...

Im sure itll be fine. Im just havung a freak out.
Im not against a girl wearig blue at all! I was just making the point that all the things we have bought have been bought in the mind set that we are having a boy. Its more about that i have had 20 weeks of thinking we are having a boy.

I think my mind is just focusing on something other than the fact very very soon my life is changed.

Keep us posted. Fx xxx

I have 3 dc and the sonographers got the sex right with all of them. I don't think they tell you unless they get a clear view - I've known people who haven't been able to find out because the baby was in an awkward position.