I really need some advice with new job guilt

[WorkingMum24]

We've been TTC since February, so a reasonable while now. In April a job came up for the same company but on a different project which is very high profile and very exciting.. I thought then that I could not NOT go for the job just incase pregnancy never occurred and I have worked years for my career so was encouraged to carry on as normal. The recruitment period took a lonnnng time but I finally found out I got the job around mid June which was great news. Fast forward to last Monday (July 31st) and it was the first day on the new project, and also the day I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant

Now I feel SO guilty and feel like I will disappoint them and let them down. I have 12 week scan booked for September 20-something but I really can't get my head around having to tell them I'm pregnant.

Can someone who is also/has also interrupted their career to have a baby help me come to terms with it?

This happened to me. I felt a little bit guilty but we had been TTC for so many years that it was overtaken by joy to be honest. I told myself that basically I was the best person for the job and so I deserved the job. If I was a man this wouldn't be an issue. I shouldnt have had to put my career on hold and avoid applying for jobs just because I'm a woman in my 30s - and my employer knows that too. I would do the best possible job before going on leave and then the same when I return after maternity leave. I wasn't apologetic to my employer because I think that undermines the sisterhood! But I did make it clear that I was committed to the job and that I hadn't planned the whole thing to be annoying for them. You can't put your life on hold for work no matter how much you care about it. Good luck with your job and baby! X

Thank you so much for your words I really needed to hear that this morning!! :(

You're completely right, and I intend to work my arse off before going on leave in order to prove to them how committed I am to the job and explain my full intentions to return when I see fit. I just feel awful, I'm hoping as time goes on I feel more comfortable with the idea and less guilty? Xx

It's natural to feel guilty but my friend always says think like a man! They wouldn't apologise for it. It's not your fault you have ovaries Focus on how fortunate you have been to fall pregnant and how lucky they are to have you at all, and that you will give them as much notice and support as you can to help them with organising cover

Similar position. Feel so guilty, particularly as someone else is going on Mat leave in the next few weeks and it will be nigh on impossible to get cover for one of us let alone both.
I plan to tell them after 12 week scan, think I'm going to acknowledge that the timing isn't great but that it's great news and we are very happy, and I plan to be back in x months time. I think if you have a plan it helps them to plan too.