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Sooooo friggin tired!!!!

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cherryontopp · 06/08/2017 17:27

Just need a rant.

Im 13 weeks tomorrow with first baby and Jesus, I've never been so tired in all my life!

Just moved house and I'm working 2 jobs. Dp thinks im exaggerating because im "not even big yet".

There's washing in the washing machine that needs putting out and thought of doing it makes me want to curl up in a ball and bawl my eyes out.

Anyone else fucking nackered?

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acornsandnuts · 06/08/2017 17:36

I was like this until around 16 weeks. DH thought I was exaggerating but I could have slept for days and still felt the same.

It's quite common and it does usually go after the first trimester. Point your DH in googles direction and educate himself.

And remember you're growing a human inside there. That's got to be hard work.

Ceebs85 · 06/08/2017 17:39

Your DH needs to buck his ideas up if he's to support you through pregnancy and child rearing! I was absolutely exhausted until about 16weeks. I never nap ever but I slept over 30 hrs in one weekend in early pregnancy. I'm 39 wks now and though I'm tired it's not the same exhausted feeling as early pregnancy.

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cherryontopp · 06/08/2017 17:51

Oh thank God its not going to be all the way through!
Im definitely gonna Google some stuff and screen shot it to him. How he sees it is, ive wanted a child for years, we went through IVF so it's like I have no right to complain about being pregnant prick

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Ceebs85 · 06/08/2017 17:57

He sounds delightful. Growing a human is bloody hard work!

Littlelouse · 06/08/2017 17:59

26 weeks and still tired! Have been having regular afternoon naps whenever I can. Teacher so lots of napping opportunities for the next few weeks. I don't think it ever goes away...

jellycat1 · 06/08/2017 18:00

Oh God I was. Particularly with first pregnancy. I used to have 12 hours straight sleep and wake up feeling like I'd only had about 2. It will definitely pass.

kel1234 · 06/08/2017 18:05

I never felt tired really. Even at the end. I admit the very few days it was very hot i struggled a bit with the heat. But that was it.
I've previously been accused of showing off by saying this, but even at the end I was still carrying on as normal, doing housework, washing, and so on. On my due date I did a pile of ironing. After my due date I travelled on public transport (standing up), to visit family. I went shopping with my mum (walked to the shops, a good half hour walk), and walked back. No problems at all.
That's not showing off, that's me saying I carried on as normal because I would never be one of those pregnant women who sits with their feet up at the end of their pregnancy. Carry on as normal and get things done, was how I looked at it.

OhWifey · 06/08/2017 18:07

20 weeks and at the gym. When I say at the gym I mean my gym kit is in the car and I am in the lounge waiting for some food while trying not to fall asleep.

thingymaboob · 06/08/2017 18:08

I am 17 weeks and in a daze. Cannot get to sleep at night and if I do, I wake up at 4-5am. I could sleep at my desk, on the bus, on a park bench, in the supermarket, anywhere but my bed at night!

64PooLane · 06/08/2017 18:11

That's not showing off, that's me saying I carried on as normal because I would never be one of those pregnant women who sits with their feet up at the end of their pregnancy.

Well, you might be one of "those pregnant women" if you had different symptoms. But lucky you! You didn't. You do sound like you're judging unfairly.

user1493413286 · 06/08/2017 18:12

During those early weeks you're body is working harder when you're at "rest" than a non pregnant person on a run so it makes sense you're tired. Just give into the tiredness I say and remember it'll get better......until baby arrives and you're getting no sleep.....

64PooLane · 06/08/2017 18:13

And yes, OP, the tiredness is a thing. I was active but I went to bed at half seven every night from about week 5 until week 14. Bizarre and not like me but it was undeniably just part of the way pregnancy affected my system. I remember being amazed nobody had mentioned it might happen as it was so extreme. Actual sleepiness rather than just "I'm tired".

peachgreen · 06/08/2017 18:14

I managed to feel pretty okay for the first trimester but that was only because DH was doing EVERYTHING - and I mean everything. Cooking, washing up, laundry, tidying (we have a cleaner luckily). All I had to do was go to work, eat my dinner, shower and sleep. I don't know what I would have done without him and I really feel for anyone without a sympathetic partner. Pregnancy is so hard.

I'm 16 weeks now and feeling much more up and down, so I do what I can when I'm up and then collapse when I'm down!

acornsandnuts · 06/08/2017 18:21

I've previously been accused of showing off by saying this yep. Just stop saying it.

My first I was exhausted my second I was fine. It's not that you just get on with it. It is different physical symptoms like some women have morning sickness. Some don't.

Do you say to women who are vomiting 'oh. I was never sick because I just kept my mouth closed' no? Well please don't tell an exhausted pregnant women to just get on with it.

AnUtterIdiot · 06/08/2017 18:34

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Bobbiepin · 06/08/2017 18:34

Tell your DH that at the end of the first trimester your baby is small but almost completely formed, just some fine tweaking and lots of growing to do. Your body is doing so much, no wonder you are tired. I remember after the 1st trimester blood test the midwife told me I wasn't anaemic and I cried. DH couldn't understand why I was upset at healthy blood tests (especially after years of anaemia and blood problems) but all I could think was "this is normal, I'm meant to be this exhausted". I had convinced myself I was iron deficient and could do something to make myself feel better. In reality all you can do is nap when you can and wait for the next trimester.

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cherryontopp · 06/08/2017 18:42

Kel your very lucky you could carry as normal. I do tell myself to get on with it, this is what comes with it but my tiredness doesn't let me just get on with it. I don't have the energy to do even the smallest of things.
thingy I have been getting like that too. Go to bed absolutely shattered, then tossing and turning and waking up through the night..but yet during the day I could fall asleep on a washing line!
peach although dp does think I'm exaggerating, he has been getting on with the house work a lot more than he normally does. Even washing my hair is like a chore these days

I think with me it may be a mixture if tiredness, coming to terms with actually becoming a mother (a fact which I had given upon years ago) and moving house. Still being pregnant just effects every aspect of your life in ways I never thought were possible!

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SomehowSomewhere1 · 06/08/2017 18:46

Yes! Just been out, it's literally 15mins, sit down, 15mins, sit down. And that's just pottering around some little shops. Also convinced I was anemic, no, doc said 'just pregnant'.

thingymaboob · 06/08/2017 18:48

@Bobbiepin I am well in the second trimester and still no change. I was told I'd have a lovely burst of energy! No such luck!

AprilShowers16 · 06/08/2017 18:52

Urgh the first part of pregnancy is the worst in my experience. I've never felt so tired in my life, feeling like I can barely breath or stand - it's awful. The good news is that for me it passed by about 16 weeks and I felt great right up until the end - so hope It will be the same for you!! Just sleep as much as you can

SheSaidHeSaid · 06/08/2017 18:57

I feel like I've been hit by a bus. There just isn't enough hours in the day to sleep how much I feel I need to. Wish I was like kel1234 and could just get on with it but I can't, I'm struggling and feel bad about how much I'm struggling.

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cherryontopp · 06/08/2017 19:04

I was out in B&Q today for 3 hours and neber sat down. My arse and legs were killing me

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beekeeper17 · 06/08/2017 19:20

For me, first trimester exhaustion was horrendous. I literally got in from work and plonked myself of the sofa and only managed to move to get myself to bed a few hours later. It did get better for me around 10 or 11 weeks so hopefully it will pass for you soon too.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

SheSaidHeSaid · 06/08/2017 19:32

Has anyone who experienced it before found any way to make it better/easier to deal with (other than actually constantly sleeping)?

Topsyloulou · 06/08/2017 19:44

The overwhelming tiredness is unfortunately very common in the first trimester & the only thing that helps is sleep. When I was pregnant with DS I was able to have early nights & long lie ins at the weekend & the tiredness improved from about 12 weeks.

This time round I'm running after 2.5 year old DS, no chance of a lie in, early nights can be done but as DP works away all week I had no alternative but to get on with some things. Didn't help when my mum moved in for 2 weeks as she was bed bound after an op. Some nights I was in tears going to bed I was so tired. This time round the tiredness lasted until about 17 weeks.

When it improves though it's almost instant, you'll be getting ready for another early night & the next thing you know you've stayed up until 10pm. The second trimester is the best, far more energy, easy to move around still. The tiredness in the third trimester is different, it's not overwhelming & is mainly caused by not sleeping well as you need to wee so often & cant get comfortable. Once baby arrives you won't feel so tired as although you're waking up a lot you're sleeping really well in between feeds. Hopefully your tiredness is on its way out now & you'll have lots more energy soon.

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