Feeling the pressure

[katerebeccaxxx]

hi,

i was wondering if anyone has felt similar to this. i feel a constant pressure to keep my life how it was before i was pregnant. seeing friends regularly on a weekend, being social, excercise etc. but lately i just feel like i've been driving myself crazy. i don't want to go out and be social and catch up with friends on a weekend, i find myself getting so worked up about how irritate i get by it.

i feel like i'm pushing everyone away from me, but at the moment i just feel like no one understands how i feel and they probably just think i'm being an arse. i'm just mentally and physically drained 😞

i know my life's changing dramatically but i just feel like my friends are all gonna lose interest with me because i'm "boring" 😐 just feeling very lonely

They won't loose interest in you because you're 'boring' but they might if you keep cutting them out and assuming the worst of them. Ask them to do things you'd like to do, but you still have to make an effort with them too

You need to talk to your friends about how you're feeling. Pregnancy is very demanding on your body and mind.
Could you suggest doing things like coffee and cake? Lunch dates? Movie nights?
Pamper evenings?

OP, I could have written this post myself. Especially after today.

Pregnancy is just controls everything, health, social life, work life - its mentally and physically exhausting. Your not alone.

I was at a festival today with the family and once I had my lemon top I wanted to be home. Ended up storming home on my own
Try your best just with the odd hour here and there for a cuppa and keep in contact through phone

How far along are you? This is my second pregnancy and both times during first trimester I just feel so rubbish and so I end up not really seeing anyone and just being home on my own feeling rubbish (sick, exhausted etc) as I can't face company. Last time I found that once I was into the second trimester I started to feel a bit more myself, and whilst I was tired and needed to look after myself, I did start to be more social again etc.

This is a feeling I've gotten used to since I was first pregnant with dc1. Pregnancy, then that year I didn't sleep, then that year as a working, commuting mum, now I'm pregnant again... Friends who drop you because you're life has changed aren't good friends. I do what I can to see my friends, but not at the expense of my sanity. The good friends get it, the other ones aren't worth it.

I feel like this, I'm only 9 weeks though so I'm hoping to feel more upbeat after 12 weeks.

On top of feeling pressure to keep up my previous social life I also feel pressure to be as social and full of life as other friends were when they were at similar stages of pregnancy. Annoying thing is that I can't actually remember what they were like so basically I'm putting pressure on myself to try to keep up with all social events without actually knowing if friends did the same.

I just feel boring and that people think I'm unsociable .

i'm 20 weeks on Tuesday but i'm just very on and off with it.

@leighdinglady i have been making an effort with my friends and whenever i've suggested something they've seemed to make it more awkward and as i'm working full time still i'm knackered during the week, a cinema date on a tuesday with the film starting at half 8 in the evening isn't the one 😂

Thanks for all your replies! I'm glad i'm not the only one feeling like this. i think sometimes i get so worked up and worried that it's not normal to feel certain things, it's so reassuring knowing there are ladies feeling the same.

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