Pregnant after 2 miscarriages and anxious

[HansSolo22]

Can anyone help settle my mind which is currently working overtime. Had a MC at 10 weeks in January then another at 5 weeks in June. Just found out I'm 4 weeks pregnant and I'm terrified of it happening again.

Any good news stories or telling me I'm going to be fine this time would be lovely. I was so devastated with both miscarriages and I'm not sure I have the strength to go through it again.

Sorry, I'm emotional and very scared!

Hi hans I'm nearly 6 weeks pregnant after 4
Consecutive miscarriages so I understand you concerns. I also had 2 between ds1 and ds2.
I'm trying to take each today as it comes which mostly involves trying not to throttle dp as he's far too over protective.
Have you spoken to a midwife I'm not sure of the criteria but could you get an early scan for reassurance?

I'm sorry for your losses. I too have suffered two mcs, each a year apart. A year after the last, I'm pregnant again and terrified the same will happen.
What I've come to realise is, all I can do is look after myself. That's it. If I lose this one, there is nothing I can do about it and like the others, it won't be my fault. I suffer with anxiety so I'm doing my best to keep on top of it. Make sure you talk to someone, or even write down your worries. It's natural to be scared and emotional.
One thing my GP told me, is that, if I have another mc, I'll get through it because I have no choice. It's what I have to do. You just keep on going because, that's life.
It's difficult to keep positive after two mcs but focusing on the negatives and the 'it could happen agains' really doesn't get you anywhere. Trust me, I know!
I wish you all the best with your pregnancy

First of all congratulations! Pregnancy after a loss is always so hard especially the early weeks. I've had four pregnancy losses and completely understand how anxious you must be feeling. You should be offered an early scan at your EPU as you've had two losses. Once a heartbeat is detected your chances of miscarriage drop and you will hopefully feel reassured.

I always held onto the fact that I read once that even after four miscarriages you still have a higher chance of your next pregnancy being successful rather than ending in miscarriage. I miscarried my first pregnancy, then had dc1, lost the next three pregnancies then had dc2. Will be thinking of you and hoping this pregnancy goes smoothly for you

Congratulations! I've had 2 MCs, one at 11 weeks last October and one at 7 weeks in march this year. I'm now just over 18 weeks and all ok so far.
I found looking forward really overwhelming (still do) and broke it down into small milestones. I didn't look towards my due date at all as that far in the future seemed unachievable, my first milestone was visiting my friends with their new baby, then once that was past I looked towards my booking in appointment. Hope that makes sense.
There's a really supportive thread (that I can't seem to link to) for pregnancy after MC. I've found it really helpful, especially in the early stages. x

Thank you for your kind messages. I'm trying so hard to relax and enjoy it as much as I loved being pregnant with my little boy. I just feel like I dare not even hope that is going to be ok this time. I will just take one day at a time and hope that I get to give this one cuddles

Hi Hans,
I had two miscarriages 6 months apart and am now sat feeding my beautiful DD.
I can totally empathise with the worry, we didn't even discuss names until I was 38 weeks!
Something one of the midwives said after my second miscarriage really helped me: she works in the EPU and said that she sees women having their first miscarriage 4 or 5 times a day, she sees women having their second miscarriage 3 or 4 times a week, but she sees women having their third miscarriage only 3 or 4 times a year.
The odds are in your favour!!

@justawestcountrygirl thank you so much, that really puts it into perspective! That has really helped and I'm so pleased to hear about your successful pregnancy after your losses. I must stay positive and stop worrying! Thank you xx

Congratulations on your pregnancy.
I had a mmc last May and became pregnant again in July. I was hugely anxious throughout the whole pregnancy but kept saying to myself, "right now, I'm pregnant". It was also easier when i could feel her move.
Our perfect dd was born in April.
Hope all goes well.