I'm pregnant and dont know what to do

[Sophiebail]

Hello,
I found out I am pregnant last week and I am around 7/8 weeks gone. I am 20, in a full time job my other half is 30 and is a supply teacher, I currently live with him and he has the mortgage and everything like that.
I have always had my heart set on keeping, when I first told him he seemed alright shocked but decided we could make this work. However since speaking to his brother he has completely flipped and now is pushing for me to get an abortion, this is the last thing I want. I understand where he is coming from, but he is being far from supportive and everytime we talk about me being pregnant it turns into an argument because we're going round in circles.
I genuinely don't know what to do, I don't want to loose him and I don't want an abortion. My head is a mess and my heart is breaking.
He is not understanding where I'm coming from and hasn't mentioned what would happen if I kept it.
I need help, ASAP.

Would you be willing to bring up the child as a single mother? I think you need to consider this as part of your decision.
No one can tell you what to, it's up to you.

If you want to keep it don't have an abortion to please him. Resentment will likely end your relationship anyway. .
Remind him it isn't up to his db to decide your baby's future. .

Once you have an abortion it cannot be undone. Timing is never right to have a baby. Keeping the baby or having abortion has to be your decision. If you partner forces you into an abortion you think it may go back to normal in the relationship but secretly yoy may grow to hate that he made you abort the baby and end up breaking up. You could end up breaking up if you decide to have a baby but at the end of the day you will have a baby to focus on cherish and love it won't be easy but if you keep the baby it'll be worth it. . You partner may come around eventually he may not but don't let him force you to do anything that you don't feel sure about its your body your the one that has to get through with it. But ultimately your body your desicion. Good luck.

Sorry to hear you're having such a tough time of it. Any idea why he changed his mind after the chat with his brother? What's his situation like? Single/married? Just trying to figure out if he's jealous at all - of his brother settling down before him or maybe of you and baby taking his brother away from him - any chance that could be the case?

Anyway, that's not really the point. The point is that the decision is 100% yours. No woman should ever feel pressured into having an abortion. Your body: your choice.

You need to prepare for the possibility that this will end the relationship either way though. If you terminate because you put his wishes first, there's every chance you'll resent him for it and the relationship will break down. If you proceed with the pregnancy against his wishes, he might leave you anyway.

Personally I think that any man trying to force a woman into an abortion is a nasty selfish cunt who doesn't deserve a loving partner, but that's just me. Best of luck whatever you decide. Make sure you have plenty of support from friends and family either way.

I couldn't be with someone who wanted me to have an abortion against my wishes so that would be my decision made. He should be acting like a real man, stepping up and supporting you.
Have you had appointment with midwife yet? It would be good to discuss this situation with them, as sadly it won't be the first time they will have come across this.
Don't let him force you into something you don't want, he really isn't worth it