Missed miscarriage

[latimer1234]

I'm so so worried about having a missed miscarriage, anyone had the same feeling?
I've had two scans already at 7 weeks and 8weeks both private, saw the heartbeat on both and I felt okay.
Suddenly my symptoms have completely gone, I'm 10weeks 5 days now and I have no sickness or breast tenderness.
I've got my dating scan on the 18th of august but reading on the internet missed miscarriages usually occur around 6-10 weeks.
I just can't shake this feeling off something isn't right and feel so so emotional because of it.
I've been trying to two years to conceive and this is my first pregnancy.
I was also given a doppler by my brothers girlfriend who said she could hear the heartbeat at around 10 weeks, now I'm frustrated that I can't and have completely convinced myself something is wrong.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thankyou all x

Thinking of you latiner. I have had a mmc and certainly for me, my symptoms did suddenly stop. I also had an instinctive feeling that I had miscarried but I had a constant low down ache - not as painful as period cramps can be but in that kind of area. However, I have also since had two babies and you are at a prime time for a lot of your symptoms to disappear anyway.

Your miscarrige odds drastically drop once a heartbeat has been seen, so you are far more likely than not to have a successful pregnancy. Can you have another reassurance scan for your peace of mind?

I would also stay well away from a Doppler and I'm afraid to say I don't believe your brother's girlfriend did hear her baby's heartbeat at 10 weeks. It is so difficult to distinguish between your own heartbeat, the placenta and just general digestion sounds. Even experienced midwives don't attempt to use dopplers at ten weeks (and guidelines have recently said not to attempt as early as 16 weeks as it is so unreliable and can cause concern).

Honestly I think it's completely normal to worry about this. You're putting all your trust in your body to do the right thing and that's scary.

Please get rid of that Doppler though, I know a lot of MWs and doctors don't agree with home Dopplers as they can either a) cause undue stress and anxiety when a heartbeat can't be found simply because the person trying to find it isn't trained or b) lull people into a false sense of security. There's also the risk you will pick up your own heartbeat instead of baby's. It's not worth the stress imo.

Thankyou both for the messages,
Yes the doppler is going away! Just making me panic even more than what I am already,
This pregnancy Malarki really isn't easy!
I'm just going to take each day as it comes and trust my body do to the right thing, unfortunately I realise now that miscarriages are completely out of our hands.
What will be will be, thankyou for the advice xx

I could have written what you wrote! 12 weeks here, 5 days till my scan and like you, my morning sickness has gone, and as much as people say it's normal for symptoms to start going as the placenta takes over, I totally understand your worries!

Agree that you should get rid of the Doppler...and the fact that you've seen a heartbeat so recently is a very good sign

The Doppler is good and bad. I got one for this pregnancy (my third baby, fifth pregnancy) for a couple reasons and I was also frustrated at first because I couldn't get a hr. I would say that it is very early so you mightn't find it now but if you YouTube Doppler videos then you might get a better idea of what to listen for and how to get it. I found it a real comfort to me in the times before I had movement and then when movement was felt but it was too early to have a pattern. I haven't used it for a while because movements are regular. I'm 35 weeks now and the children wanted to listen to the baby the other day (they love listening to their own babies too 😂) and actually I found it harder to get the heart rate now than when baby was smaller! Go figure!

I certainly understand your anxiety though. I had one baby and then two losses and then another baby and I really thought that with this pregnancy I would be relaxed but I was nearly worse! We also moved away and the health system is different. I needed reassurance and found it helpful. But I know some people disagree with them. I'm also a nurse so used to using certain devices.

funny, I wrote pretty much this on another thread yesterday!

I totally understand where you are coming from as I am exactly the same. I am 6+1 today and haven't yet had a scan. Where I am they are not open until Monday so I can't even arrange one (been trying since weds before I realised!). I am SO worried that something is wrong, esp as I am almost 39 and this is first pregnancy plus my diet is terrible (I really am trying but it's hard).

I think fact you have had a scan with a heartbeat is good. Try to hold onto that (know it's hard) and just keep taking care of yourself. Let us know how you get on. Lots of love xx