29 weeks and not nesting :(

[Dede124]

I have no motivation at all. I'm not excited about doing the nursery one bit dp has started painting and looking at furniture and I just can't be bothered. I'm not excited to buy baby clothes or anything. People keep asking me if iv started to nest yet and I haven't I feel so guilty and selfish I think I'm still in denial. Has anyone else felt like this? When is it normal to get that urge to clean and get everything ready? Iv got a million and one things to do and I just haven't got the energy from the minute I wake up in the morning!

I never had the nesting instinct. I ordered a lot online to be delivered (clothes, bottles etc) as didn't have the energy- due to HG- to be excited about being out for hours where I'd probably vomit in public

I didn't 'nest' until I went on mat leave a week before I was due, cue giant pregnant lady standing on the kitchen tops cleaning the blinds

I think this was more from boredom as all my friends were at work and all I did was a two hour walk each day and watch box sets

I didn't. Not at all.
The house was always kept clean anyway. I just carried on doing what I had to do, washing, ironing, general cleaning.
Also we didn't have a nursery as I hate the idea of a nursery. My baby was in with us for ages, until he was 16 months, even then we only moved him as he was going into a toddler bed, so we had to.

My mother in law did the nursery for me as I had no desire.
Nesting instinct doesn't happen to everyone and this rose tinted view of pregnancy and afterwards can be very damaging.

Mine was in the last month I think! I am lazy so couldn't be bothered before then I only get energy when there is time pressure..

My son is 19 months and I still haven't done any nesting. But then I'm terrible with housework anyway so shouldn't have expected a few hormones to change that.

I didn't do any 'nesting'. Obviously got the nursery ready and clothes washed. I also did some batch-cooking so we could have some decent meals after DD arrived. I never really felt the 'nesting' instinct, I was knackered and had raging heartburn all the time.

I nested the day before I went into labour. Thought my sofa needed a good scrub. At 42 weeks. In 35 degree heat.
Only recognised it as nesting in hindsight though.

I organised the garage once during my pregnancy and then loads of people claimed it was nesting when I actually really had to do it.... don't get too swept up in this idea of maternal Instincts when a lot of it is just bollocks. I don't feel like I've nested at all and I'm so tired, I'll definitely take advantage of any energy I have to clean up but I would still wouldn't call that nesting!! X

'Nesting' is a marketing concept designed to make you spend money on stuff babies don't need. I spent my entire pregnancy thinking about my demanding professional job, doing an international commute weekly, and finishing a major project before going on leave at 36 weeks (because I couldn't fly any more). I honestly didn't give that kind of thing any thought at all, we had a cleaner, and as we lived in a tiny London flat, DS never had a 'nursery'. Honestly, OP, if you want to clean and paint things pastel, do, but it's not necessary or universal.

I've never nested in my life, I'm too lazy and tired when pregnant.

I went early at 28 weeks so never had time for nesting nonsense.

I did get a sarky comment from the community midwive about dust under my telly I was 2 days post section and had spent 2 weeks in hospital.

I never got the nesting instinct, I also had HG so going to the shops and browsing was out of the question, we only did it to try out prams and I barely managed not to vomit into them. We were also living in my parents attic surrounded by the entire contents of our London flat which we had moved out of because DPs mum was diagnosed with cancer and passed away while I was pregnant. Nesting just wasn't a priority I just ordered what we needed online. We moved into our new house 2 days after DD was born and I still haven't unpacked everything and she is almost 11 months old! DD cosleeps so there was no need to decorate her room much but it is ready for when she moves out of our bed.

I never had the nesting instinct with either of my dc either. I wouldn't worry about it .

I'm 30 weeks and think I might be starting to feel the nesting thing, but I'd say that's only as I've just finished work and I've got two friends who have given birth within the last 3 weeks, so seeing their little ones has made me feel more excited about mine? Definitely not something that everyone needs to experience, I guess some just do and some just don't? Nothing to feel ashamed or guilty about OP xx

I'm 35 weeks and planning a massive cleaning day tomorrow as I started mat leave yesterday. It's definitely not nesting, I have no urge or inclination to do it but my house has been seriously neglected since I've been pregnant with a toddler to look after too.

Really I just want to lie on the sofa watching telly as I'm so exhausted I could cry

I'm 19 weeks and so excited about getting all baby stuff in and organised 🙈

Err... never. I ordered the stuff I needed after about 30 weeks. My house is fairly clean anyway, I certainly didn't do any cleaning above the norm. And I didn't decorate the nursery until they needed it at 6 months (in with me until then).
As a PP said, it's a marketing ploy.

I never had the nesting urge with my first, but our flat was brand new and sparkling! I did unpack and repack my hospital bag obsessively but no crazy cleaning! I wonder if I will with this one..

I didn't have any nesting instinct at all. The baby went in the box room but it didn't need painting or decorating to look like a nursery, I just put the cot/Moses basket in it and cleared out the drawers for the baby.

I washed the clothes but they were still hanging in the clothes horse in the baby's room when I went into labour. (Handy as I hadn't packed a hospital bag so just grabbed a few bits off of it and stuffed it in a bag when my wages broke!)

I didn't get any form of 'nesting' desire until I was on mat leave, and then it took the form of baking lots of cakes (DH was happy; he'd much rather have a cake than a pristine house). We had the essentials in, but didn't redecorate DD's room - it was in reasonable condition when we moved in, and a baby doesn't care. DD is now 4, and redecoration remains a way off...

Nope. Never nested. Our house was always immaculate anyway. Fast forward to a toddler of 18 months and the house is perpetually coated in cracker crumbs.