At my consultant appointment to plan my c section. Sterilisation was offered. What do you think ?

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Ok I'm not after a bashing or to cause any upset of confrontation. ( I'll delete the thread if it starts to become one)

But opinions on this lovelies.
I'm 36 weeks pregnant with my 2nd. And last baby. ( 2 is what we want, planned and are content with, Ive been with my partner 18 years and we are very happy and life is good. I also turn 40 next year and he's 41.

I am having to have a planned C Section in a few weeks due to a humongous fibroid inside me. A previous torn placenta, loss of blood and a 3rd degree tear at my first baby. This one is also lying oblique.

I'm totally ok and fine with having a c section ( it's a massive decision for me as I'm terrified of hospitals and operations, so this has been a big decision by myself and my partner)

The fibroid has caused minor problems in my life but obviously not my fertility 😀. I realise that there on many options that they try to deal with the fibroid after I've the baby. I am prepared and have given my consent to have a hysterectomy during the c section if it required. ( I'd have the whole lot and the fibroid taken out if it was possible but it's not)

What I was not expecting was to be offered to sterilisation at the same time as the c section! Apparently it's very common and adds a few minutes onto the section. It's obviously irreversible and Once done it's done.

I think I know my response but I'm wondering what other people think? I've been researching caesareans and watching you tube videos and stuff for information and research and haven't come across this ? And it's kind of thrown me.

Is this what people are doing now?, offered? Etc
I was planning on some sort of contraception after the pregnancy and I suppose this is an easy harmless way. Obviously very serious and finial. So ??

Did they say what method? Was it clips? I was told recently that they don't like to sterilise so soon after pregnancy as everything is swollen and when it all settles the clips become loose and obviously could lead to accidental pregnancy.

I had a sterilisation during my 4th section as it was my last baby and i was verging on 40, best thing i ever did, a little more pain afterwards but minimal. I had a section of tube removed from either side, and its great that contraception is no longer an issue.

My situation is very different but I was sterilised at the time of my last (fourth) cs. I'd made the decision a fortnight before to have a coil after both but then 3 days before my cs I was basically bullied into it and given no written info to consider (I had a uti at the time too so was confused)

It's a big decision but if you're 100% sure then go for it as it's getting it out of the way at the same time and saving you another op in the future just make sure you're totally definite that no matter what happens you wouldn't want any more dc (I ended up having mine reversed in the end it was a long and painful journey)
Best of luck

I'm planning on asking for it at my consultant appointment I've done a little research which does suggest it is slightly more likely to fail if done alongside a csection but it's only a slight risk and I'd rather get on with it than have to wait until I'm recovered and then have more surgery.
This is my 3rd baby and I definitely don't want any more so makes sense for me.
Only you can know if it's right for you.

On the way to my emcs I was rather intimidated into agreeing to tubes tied (which I didn't agree to). The next day my consultant came and apologised saying it should have never been mentioned and they had acted inappropriately in this instance. . So some hospitals encourage it and some don't it seems.

Congratulations OP. However, because the answer doesn't sound like a 'definite yes' from your post, I would go with a no. You may find yourself having baby No2 and being desperate for baby No3.

yes if you are sure, i did the same after no3. they will ask you again after the baby is born - good luck

When I had an ELCS for dc2 (my final baby) no one suggested sterilisation. Once full of all the baby hormones I then decided I wanted dc3. Those feelings are subsiding and reality is taking over but I might have felt pretty awful if it was definitely not a problem.

What if something was wrong with your baby? Would you want another? I know that sounds heartless but I can't help thinking of my friend who had a still birth so went on to have another pregnancy to have the two living children she wanted.

Hi ladies thanks for replying
Yes it's something I wasn't expecting to be asked. The consultant appointments have been all about the pregnancy/ baby and fibroid, which thankfully is nearly over. 😀
I would happily have a hysterectomy there and then if there's the need and get rid of the 16cm by 17cm fibroid but that's probably not going to happen.

Yes it's a tricky one and quite a surprise when he suggested it. By no way am I being pressured into it and going again in 2 weeks, the week before my planned C section, and I think I know my answer. Thank you lovely ladies.💕

I was offered sterilisation at my 24 week consultant appointment- took me by surprise. I will be having my third c- section next month and assumed that I was offered due to having 3 kids/sections. When I said No the consultant then tried to persuade me to have coil fitted at the time of section. I ended up just saying I would think about it- having thought about it I've decided to not opt for either- just feels that when recovering from a major operation is enough without sticking another factor that may or may not go wrong in to it all.
Good Luck with your section Op. my feelings around the sterilisation are that even though I have no plans for any others- it just seems too final.