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Hypothetical Question - what birth month would you choose for your baby?

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JoWithABow · 30/07/2017 16:45

Ok so to start with I know we are not all that lucky to conceive a successful pregnancy the very first month of trying, so hope no one takes offence at this thread - BUT - in an ideal world where you can choose the month your baby would be born in, which month would you go for?

Would you like your baby to have a birthday in the summer time to make it nicer for parties in years to come, would you want them born in a different month to your other children to spread out the cost of birthday presents etc, or avoid a particular month?

I love autumn so always wanted an autumn born baby as it's such a lovely time of the year, however if I had another I think summer would be better for planning parties etc

Anyone got any thoughts?

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Itmustbemyage · 30/07/2017 19:07

Planned an August or September birthday for my second (Scotland) luckily he was born in August. My first child (happily not planned) was born in December so their birthday and mine are too close to Christmas for both of our likings.

Tilapia · 30/07/2017 19:08

I have a May birthday and I've always liked it - but my DC are autumn babies, and it is definitely an advantage to be one of the oldest in the class when they start school.

HamptonWick1974 · 30/07/2017 19:10

Never contemplated it when trying to get pregnant the first time. HOWEVER, with hindsight, a baby born Sept/Oct/Nov is far better for school purposes. Summer born boys are a struggle (well mine were). It's taken most of primary to catch up. Also, if you have your baby in September, you have 5 years with them at home instead of just over 4 years before they start school. But summer parties are much more fun. I'm sure it all evens out in the end, but I'd have preferred longer at home with my DC before they started school.

Ladylolly · 30/07/2017 19:44

I have a Christmas baby. I was in hospital on Christmas Day he was eventually born on the 27th.
The minuses - combined Christmas and birthday presents.
Lots of recycled unwanted Christmas presents as gifts at party. Though I personally think this is fine.l as approve of recycling.
The hospital felt very understaffed and we ran into a few problems because of this as were in for 5 nights.
We hold back xmas birthday money and throw a little 6 month family birthday in the summer so he has some new developmentally appropriate toys then.

Pluses - on the 27th people want an excuse to leave the house/in laws so parties are actually quite popular weirdly.
When you are in your 4th trimester at home snuggled on the sofa not being able to leave the house due to cluster feeds and sleep deprivation it's actually seems nice and cosy. You don't feel like you are missing anything.
Then you emerge into spring with a 3 month old and have a 6-9month old who really enjoys the summer crawling outside and being in water.
LO not the oldest in the year but still somewhere round the top developmentally.
You can buy all their clothes for the next step up in the winter and summer sales (weird I know but hey any silver lining)

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JoWithABow · 30/07/2017 20:01

So many pros and cons! I love it. Think ive been persuaded by an April Birthday by the person who said they liked feeding in the early hours with the sun coming up - how lovely

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IndianaMoleWoman · 30/07/2017 20:03

I had DD1 on Christmas Eve and it sounds really twee but it was just magical. DD2 was October, a beautiful crisp day with colourful leaves everywhere. I am very happy with their birth months but whether they will be remains to be seen (they are only 2 and 9 months).

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JoWithABow · 30/07/2017 20:03

And ladylolly you've persuaded me on a Christmas Birthday now too

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Sandsnake · 30/07/2017 20:22

I reckon late October is perfect - chance of OK weather and sometimes will fall in half term. And of course the advantages of being old in the year. DS is early November, which I like. No pregnancy over Christmas and like Lady says above it's quite nice having a newborn to snuggle in the winter and then a more active baby in spring / summer.

urbanturban · 30/07/2017 21:08

@IndianaMoleWoman my DD (first baby, now have 3 DC) was born on Christmas Eve too-you're right, totally magical!
I adore Christmas anyway so it was perfect for me!

notomatoes · 30/07/2017 21:22

July... but it's looking more and more like it's going to be August. Sob.

...but I do feel like I timed this terribly and just one month later would save me worrying about how he will cope in school before he's even born. My other DS is Jan and that feels much better.

Oysterbabe · 30/07/2017 21:45

DD was born on NYE and my second is due 17th December. I love it, such a great time of year. This year I'll have the perfect excuse to spend Christmas at home cuddling my new baby rather than dragging myself around the country visiting relatives. I'm a December baby and I always liked it, it just feels quite special.

RaeSkywalker · 30/07/2017 21:51

DS is a November baby (he's 8mo).

I'm pleased he'll be one of the oldest in his school year- I'm a summer baby and was always behind my peers. AND although I was always off school for my birthday, lots of people were on holiday for my parties.

Disadvantages of November:

No outdoor parties
It's hard having a young baby in winter- my mood has lifted massively since we've had warmer weather.

AccrualIntentions · 30/07/2017 22:14

I'd say spring, so March, April. I'm a spring baby and it was usually starting to get warmer, there's a few bank holidays and I was in the middle of the school year in terms of age.

DH is an August baby and convinced it set him back at school (but he may also have just been a little shit). Took us 2 1/2 years to conceive so planning wasn't exactly an option for us, and DC is due in late November.

bbpp · 30/07/2017 22:19

Spring/early summer. Autumn and winter are always packed with birthdays and the obvious holidays but then it goes quiet March-August for us. Would want to avoid late summer due to schooling issues.

shortsaint · 30/07/2017 22:24

I second April for all those reasons. I only had 6 months maternity leave & having spring/summer off was lovely. Lots of walks in the park and a first holiday in August.

I also have an early Jan DS. Rubbish. Far too soon after Xmas, all ideas for presents used up and weather is awful.

toffee1000 · 30/07/2017 22:30

I prob wouldn't want a Christmas baby. It's not really special for the child as everyone else is celebrating and getting presents, that just seems to take the shine off for me.
I was a summer baby (beginning of July). I started school the term I turned five. I could already read by then (not fluent, obviously, just didn't need to learn from scratch) and never really had any issues in primary, maybe because I'd started when I did?
Everyone at my secondary did well in exams, but then again it was a selective private school so the pupils were going to be bright anyway.
On balance I'd probably want a March/April baby, when the weather's nicer and so i wouldn't have to be pregnant over summer.

anotherdayanothersquabble · 30/07/2017 22:31

Autumn...

I love the idea of a spring birth but the stats bear it out, much as we like to kid ourselves that they all catch up... Autumn borns on average do better, in sport, at university, in average earnings.

toffee1000 · 30/07/2017 22:31

*am a summer baby- my birth month hasn't changed

muggymum · 30/07/2017 22:39

June / July. Outdoor parties! And not to close to chrimbo x

treaclesoda · 30/07/2017 22:41

July or August so that they would be amongst the oldest in their school year. And also breaks up the expense of Christmas presents and birthday presents quite nicely.

tankerdale · 30/07/2017 23:09

Eh? In the U.K. system July or August = youngest in the school year.

September/October is the oldest.

CatchIt · 30/07/2017 23:11

Dd is mid august so one of the youngest of her year. It's not thrown up any issues academically but it's proving to be a pita for her first school birthday as everyone is on holiday.

Ds is a June baby which I think might be better as he'll still be at school for his birthday.

I wouldn't have wanted a winter baby as I couldn't have thought of anything worse than having a small baby in the freezing cold weather. Grim!!

TartanDMs · 30/07/2017 23:14

I would have loved an autumn baby because I was born in the middle of summer and never had birthday parties on or near my birthday because my friends were always on holiday, and never had my birthday celebrated in assembly at primary school (birthday children were called to the stage and had happy birthday sung to them). DS had the temerity to be born right at the end of August so he was always the youngest in his year and - surprise surprise - never had friends to his birthday parties, or those who did come would bring cards with the wrong age on them as they didn't realise he was almost a year younger than some of them.

treaclesoda · 30/07/2017 23:14

Not the UK system. There are different systems in different parts of the UK.

I'm in the UK, but where I live, July is the oldest in the school year and June is the youngest. Summer born children don't start school until after their fifth birthday.

treaclesoda · 30/07/2017 23:15

What I meant is that there isn't a UK system.

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