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So scared I'm going to have another miscarriage

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Tigger83 · 26/07/2017 15:57

Hi

Not really sure why I'm posting.... I'm 7 weeks pregnant with my third pregnancy in 6 months. My first was a mmc baby died at 6+4 approx and we found out at just under 11 after spotting we'd had a scan at 6 weeks and saw a strong heartbeat. 2nd was a chemical. We've had an early scan as I had spotting and pain baby was doing fine, measuring slightly ahead of dates and heart beat there.

Since the scan I've had a couple more days of brown spotting only when I wipe. Got another private scan booked next Thursday as I needed reassurance.

Pregnancy symptoms all there and strong (but they were last time) am getting some cramps but that can also be usual I guess.

I feel loads of emotions, I feel completely detached from the pregnancy as I'm too scared that it's all going to end badly. I get little moments of excitement which I immediately suppress as I don't want to tempt fate and part of me worries that we've lost the baby already but just don't know. I feel sad because I want to enjoy being excited about being pregnant.

I'm hoping that at 10 weeks when I have harmony if I get that far I might relax a bit about it. People have said to me you just have to remember today I am pregnant but what if I'm not? What if my body has tricked me again?

I've read all the stats that tell me the likelihood is all is ok, on the flip side people who've had 2 miscarriages despite seeing the heartbeat 17% don't work which seems really high!!

If you've got to the end of this thanks for reading I'm not expecting anything but think I just needed to get it out!

OP posts:
PleaseStopRaining · 26/07/2017 16:04

Thinking of you. I am currently five weeks pregnant and have experienced a mmc and miscarrige at 9 weeks before. I think any kind of miscarriage or threatened one makes us so anxious. Hope your scan shows your baby contentedly growing well inside.

MieMoosMummy · 26/07/2017 16:05

Just here to hand hold OP Flowers

pompomlover · 26/07/2017 16:09

Congratulations on your pregnancy OP!

You owe it to your little bean to be as relaxed and chilled out as you can possibly be, if you don't want to get excited yet then try and focus your energies on looking after yourself totally. Book a massage, go and buy your favorite foods, concentrate on healthy eating for little bean, snuggle up with your pajamas and get OH to look after you.

I have had a miscarriage recently and I fear exactly what you are experiencing should I get pregnant again. After a MC the innocence of pregnancy is lost forever and I am not sure how you can get it back if ever but one thing is for sure you will regret not enjoying and relaxing this pregnancy.

Sending you a big fat hug OP Flowers

SheSaidHeSaid · 26/07/2017 16:19

I'm sorry to hear about your previous losses Tigger.

All pregnancies are different and so this one may just be the one which sticks. I can completely understand your worries and concerns though.

Spotting can be anything or nothing and it's a good sign that it's been brown as this is old blood so it appears you're not actively bleeding at the moment.

Take each day as it comes and rant away of you need to. Look after yourself, be kind to yourself and lean on your partner (if you have one) for their support when you need it.

Owl1011 · 26/07/2017 16:37

Good luck with your pregnancy OP, I'm sure you'll be fine! I can understand the anxiety you're facing after my previous history but the odds are always more in your favour than not.

Currently 14 weeks now and constantly panicking but trying to relax and enjoy it as much as possible.

Good luck for your scan Smile

TheLegendOfBeans · 26/07/2017 16:44

Hi love; come over here where we are all in the same boat as you!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2963345-Staying-posifrickentive-Thread-17-for-ladies-pg-after-mc?msgid=70712449#70712449

@pompomlover your comment about MC zapping the innocence of pregnancy is spot on. Could not agree more.

May I also add that miscarriages...well they're just SHIT arent they?

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