Push presents? Just curious if you recieved one and what it was? New thing to us!

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Just wondered. Not in a greedy 'i want one' way!

Btw if you also didnt know what this is its a pressie from OH after giving birth

I got a car but I would have been happy with a ring.

2 crates of wine . And some new clothes.

I got a pendant. It's silver plated and has my sons initial on it. It was £8 and completely perfect.

Aww sweet. OH keeps mentioning the clay footprint thing so i wouldn't be suprised if thats whats coming my way. Cute....but cant help but think its not really for me...

GeekyWombat I think that's beautiful and totally irreplaceable.

I hate hate hate the term 'push present'

I got a Chinese takeaway on the day, and an eternity ring some time later

Erm I got a baby

It's a horrible term and the concept makes me uncomfortable too - like you need a present to say thank you for pushing out his baby? (do you still get one if you have a section?).

When dc1 was tiny dp bought me a tablet because he saw how much time I spent pinned to a chair breastfeeding trying to surf the Internet on my phone, which I thought was really thoughtful

DS1 - Cartier watch
DS2 - Diamond eternity band

But you know what? I'd given over my body, my sanity, my sleep and 20lbs, not to mention the physical toil of labor and delivery. Too fucking right I wanted something pretty to look at when the buzz of a newborn was replaced by baby blues, shredded nipples and the absolute agony of after pains. Diamonds helped - as did fuck tons of chocolate.

Blimey lots of amazing gifts!

Ah bollocks - I didn't push (c section) so no present for me

Had never heard of it until OH gave me a Tiffany ring after first baby and then a Victorian necklace after 2nd. He really does love buying presents (& he's really good at it!)

Nothing here - but no disappointment either. My DH stayed with me during my labour and the next day he brought me some flowers, all the food I couldn't eat whilst poorly and pregnant and hugs. He stayed with my DD in neonatal when I was too tired to do so myself so I didn't feel guilty, hugged me when I cried and was the one to wheel my DD through in her cot a few days later when she was well enough to join me. I know it sounds tacky and twee, but I'll remember all of those things a lot more than I could ever appreciate a ring or a necklace (though of course the thought is nice!).

Not a great believer in push presents to be honest, although I know many who have received them. I don't know - it just feels a bit odd to me. I know pregnancy and childbirth are hard work but so are many, many other things in life and I wouldn't buy gifts commemorating all of those! It also perpetuates the whole thing about pregnancy and childbirth only being about the mother which I have always been uncomfortable about - two people made the baby and two people will be raising it - the pregnancy includes both of them.

Having said that, just before the birth of our final 2 DC (DTs) my DH took me to the jewellers where my engagement and wedding rings had come from and asked me to design an eternity ring. His thinking being that the engagement ring signified our initial promise to each other, the wedding ring signified the start of our family and the eternity ring would signify the completion of our family. It wasn't a push present - more that he felt it was the right time to buy me an eternity ring and that in doing so at that point it signified something as we knew that the DTs would be our last. I designed my ring with a combination of diamonds and sapphires - 4 sapphires to signify each of our children - and their four names are engraved on the inside of the band.

My sister referred to a gift as the 'baby diamonds' when asking if I got anything. Sounds like a nicer term to use. He bought me an eternity ring as we were also married five years on our anniversary the following month.

I didn't expect anything but my OH brought me an early present. I needed a bigger bag for my notes so he brought me a LV Neverfull bag so I can use now and then after to carry everything around. Was really thoughtful and unexpected.

I know some don't agree but I thought this was a nice gift as makes me feel special but still a little practical as well:-)

before it had a name. My lovely DH gave me porcelain rose earrings after the birth of our DS. So pretty, and he wanted me to have flowers that would last forever until the vacuum ate one

t also perpetuates the whole thing about pregnancy and childbirth only being about the mother which I have always been uncomfortable about - two people made the baby and two people will be raising it - the pregnancy includes both of them.

Fuck that. Some men help raise babies but pregnancy and childbirth is ALL about women. Diamonds please

'Push present'
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Chinese takeaway and Haagen Dazs ice cream the night we came home 24 hours after a caesarean (luckily no pushing!). I had HG the entire way through that stopped as soon as I had DD. So he did well with the food!

Nothing off my dd's dad as we weren't together and he didn't give a shit. So I bought myself a Tiffany charm bracelet

Jedbartletforpresident - yes and I got DH a "dad" gift too to mark his move into fatherhood (and not a cheap gift either!)

The term "push present" is the clincher here, and what makes peoples faces go from to

There is nothing AT ALL wrong with a partner/husband buying their other halves a gift after they've given birth, no matter what that gift is - it could be it flowers, their favorite perfume, some pate, a bottle of champagne, a car or diamonds. It could be the gift of taking all the night feeds, or cleaning the house from top to bottom. It is a lovely gesture no matter what the gift is.

All that being said, I'm of the thought that any woman that grows a human and delivers it (be it c-section or foof) deserves a medal and parade. Sure women have been doing it for a millennia, however only recently have they been doing it whilst simultaneously trying to raise other children, run a house and keep their careers on track...

I'm still waiting for my eternity ring. He did bring me flowers and decent food in hospital though.

Push present makes me gag.

Does the father get a fuck present for his little swimmers making it there?

We don't really do presents for each other in our household. We just buy each other stuff that we need out of joint funds for birthdays and Christmasses, so nothing is really ever a surprise.

That said, I've told DH that I want a "present" after our (currently third trimester) baby is born, and that present is going to be some teeth whitening at the dentist, and if he makes any comment about it, I will get very cross indeed.

Although in the spirit of celebration, I've told him he can have some new walking boots.

Of course, my teeth whitening will be more expensive than his walking boots but I've said that if he wanted equality in this matter, then he should have been born a penguin.