Ex wants nothing to do with me and baby

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My babies dad doesn't want to be on birth cert or have any contact by the sounds of the email I received.
I'm 22 and he's 42. All was going well until his ex found out I was pregnant and he went back with her and left us 
He has two other kids with her.
I've been sent this email from him and my heart has shattered into pieces 

I've only got 12 weeks left of pregnancy and I feel like all I've done is worry!
Has anyone been in this situation before? And if so did the dad warm to the idea of contact when baby was born?
I've got loads of family around me and friends. I'll never be alone. But I want my baby girl to have her dad. Why should he treat our daughter differently to his other kids? I'm just looking for some reassurance I suppose. 😢

No advice but just wanted to say i'm sorry your going through this. Try not to worry, as long as your daughter has you in her corner she'll do just great, and it's great you have family and friends around you, i know you want her to have her dad, but at the end of the day it'll be his loss if he isn't involved as he'll miss out on an amazing child.

Sounds like he's maybe been stringing you both along and decided to stay with his existing family. Focus on yourself surround yourself with people who care.

Unfortunately you can't force someone to be a parent. .
Your baby will have a fantastic dm I am sure. .
Leave him with the guilt of how he has treated you both. . And move on. . You are wasting your energy on him when you should be enjoying your pregnancy.

Let your family support you in the early days and enjoy your baby. . It really is his loss. All your baby needs is a happy stress free dm. .

I grew up without a dad, and to be honest it's not the worst thing in the world. It's shitty what you're going through but your DD will be just fine. Focus on the two of you for now and be glad such a waste of space is out of your life.

Of he refuses to step up, I dont think you will be able to do anything.
However, he is the father, he knows that and I would make sure he is paying some CM for HIS dc.

I'm sorry that he's being like this but, as bold a statement as this may be, it sounds like you and your little girl will be better off without him.

Lean on your support network when you need them and also make sure he sticks to his responsibilities in terms of child support. Just because he doesn't want his name on the certificate doesn't mean he isn't the biological dad and doesn't need to financially support your daughter.

Wishing you all the best for the future

You can't force anyone to be a parent.

I'm sorry, it is hard and sad. I've been through similar myself. What I would say is that it is infinitely easier in the long run to parent on your own, than to co-parent with somebody who could make your life difficult. So there can be advantages to not having him on the birth certificate -- for example, you can travel out of the country with your child without a signed letter from him giving permission! It makes no difference whatsoever to the legal requirement for him to pay child maintenance, so don't worry on this front either.

Erm: When do you need written permission from the father to take your child out of the country? If so, I've broken the law several times....

I'm 24 +4 weeks pregnant with a little girl. Me and her father split Wen I found out hes response was have a abortion. I left him after a month he decided he wanted to be a dad to my baby. So I moved closer to him so it made seeing her easier for him Wen she's born but he's showing no interest he's missed all the scans I've been shoeing him pics on baby stuff asking if he likes them before we get them he's not even offered to buy anything for her I've done it all. but I had a blanket made with her intials on and showed him through a msg now he's having ago asking why is she not having he's sir name . He's not been anywhere in sight for 2 months done nothing shows no interest and he wonders why. It's not like he can't afford it he runs he's own business like I do he can't be scared to be a dad he's got 3 kids already and he's a brilliant dad to them it seems cus I don't want a relationship with him then he don't want the baby. we are not kids I'm in my 30s he's in he's 40s but I just wished he would grow up.