Telling our parents

[ddegville]

Hi All,

Found out last week whilst we were on holiday that i'm pregnant!

The other half wants to wait until 12 weeks to tell anybody, including our parents. I want to tell our parents now. I talk to my mom about everything, and the only reason we hadn't told her we were trying was because it happened so quickly, it was only our 1st cycle trying. The other half doesn't want to budge on telling the parents but i don't want to wait, any advice appreciated.

Thanks,
Dannie

Oops, crossed post NC1990

Currently going through a miscarriage myself at 9 weeks we told both sets of parents on Father's Day when I was 5 weeks. I have 3 children already and this would have been my husbands 1st baby and I had an "i've done all this before nothing will happen to me attitude." I don't regret telling them so early as the support I have had this week has been amazing and much needed. I know I would have had the support even if they hadn't had known but would rather they known before and not after.

Oh and as for waiting for a scan. We had a scan at 8 weeks and then went public and and another scan the day of the miscarriage and everything was fine we were in the 2% that were unfortunate to still miscarry after seeing a heartbeat at 8 -9 weeks

Actually, I told my mum asap. 1) because I tell her everything and wouldn't be able to keep something that big quiet for so long and 2) I needed someone to ask all the questions. (This was in pre-MN times).
We didn't tell DH's family until we had our scan. DH isn't as close to his parents. They're also older & pretty religious, so a pregnancy before marriage wouldn't have been very well received. I also don't really talk to them and he does a monthly dutiful call.
We live far away from both sets of parents, which may have made a difference. It may have been harder to keep things quiet if we saw my PIL more often.