Hi,
i don't know if anyone's been through anything similar but i just need to rant and get stuff off my chest.
i'm nearly 18 weeks pregnant, my partner is no longer involved. he decided he didn't want the baby so has gone off to do his own thing. i said i'd support the decision whatever it was as i feel as though being a dad needs to be genuine and i wouldn't ever force anyone. course i have been left heart broken by this but have managed to pull through and be positive.
after finding out i was pregnant he gave me a lot of verbal abuse and i had no choice but to block him for a bit as i couldn't cope with what he was saying. it was unplanned so i was still trying to cope myself.
however, he has recently taken up a job which is a good 5 hours in the car from me on a good day. he brags about it everywhere and i just find myself getting so wound up as i'm saving and working full time for our baby. which i don't mind and i want to do and to give my baby the best it just hurts seeing how much his life hasn't been affected by this. the thing is aswell, he had got back in touch with me last week saying he missed me and wanted to make it work with me. he didn't even know when i was due or how many weeks i was and he hasn't asked 😂
anyway i met him the other night to discuss what was going to happen. he didn't listen to anything i was saying and he kept saying i can't expect him to quit his job and move back and money is important to him! i tried to compromise and asked him to tryfor the baby and support me and just at least give me a bit of respect. he's not told any of his family either.
i just feel so drained we couldn't compromise at all and he just didn't seem bothered.... this was the other day and we've not spoken since 😒 i don't know what to do or even say anymore. i've given him enough chances and i'm just sick to death of him doing what he wants and not understanding how much he's bloody hurt me 🙁 i understand he's shocked but giving me mixed signals such as saying "i'm glad you're pregnant i've always wanted a kid" yet not even committing to coming to a scan with me just pissed me off!! there was no emotion whatsoever in his face or even body language and his phone kept pinging with other girls texting him. 😶
i feel bad for the baby that i can't make him want to be there. he said he will be home "most weekends" but he can't commit to anything. i said this wasn't good enough and i want my baby to have a dad who puts the baby first.
am i just hurting my child by even letting him get away with it 🙁 i don't even know what i'm trying to say by this but some people really aren't who they say they are. i look at couples who supported each other and i find myself getting so upset that i don't have that 😢
i'm fine sometimes but today i've really been struggling with it. i don't want to be an angry person but i'm just fed up! my main concern is the baby and that's who i've got to think of, just sick of the guilt trips!