Firstly: I have name changed for this thread as this could be quite identifying.
Secondly: it genuinely doesn't matter either way what gender baby is - I'm elated that baby is healthy, that's of the uttermost importance, however the reason for our gender scan originally was due to a genetic, gender related condition that we just want to be mentally prepared for again if need be.
We booked a private gender scan at 18+2 (or 17+6 by our original dates) to try and find out. We were very exited - same sex as our first child, who is amazing, genuinely couldn't be happier about that, but equally were a bit sad that it's highly likely we will end up going through the same operations again for this genetic condition (I'm sure no one likes the thought of having to put children through operations, no matter how big or small).
Fast forward to our 20 week NHS scan - most amazing experience (despite a little monkey not co-operating!) ! 90 mins and 3 scans later due to its bad positioning, the scan couldn't be completed. They did get a look, but couldn't be sure at all. They said 'it's possibly' the same as the private scan said, but it really wasn't clear.
22 week scan this week, with a different sonographer , to complete the scan. She was very happy to look for us (even though they don't have to) - she was very understanding about the reasons behind finding out. Baby was very co-operative, but again, she said she just really couldn't be sure that it was what the first scan had said. She suggested we should get another scan (private)
Anyhow, I'm just looking for opinions from people really ... would you pay for another scan, or just go with the flow and be mentally prepared just in case?
My heart is saying that perhaps this is natures way of telling us to keep it a surprise, and just be prepared either way. What will be will be. We've gone through it once completely unprepared so we can do it again!
My head on the other side is saying just book the damn thing for your own piece of mind!
Agggghhh - sorry for the long post, just didn't want to miss anything out!