Feeling emotional about having baby number two...

[Twiga]

...have been sorting through dd's clothes she's grown out of and have managed to get stupidly emotional about the whole thing. In part pg hormones no doubt and also we know we're expecting a wee boy this time round so I guess part of me is wandering if I'll ever get this stuff out again (we're hoping for another 1/2 but who knows). Some of it is being stored and some is going to a friends lovely wee girl - great to know it'll get some more use. DD is just over 18 months and some days she feels so grown up and independant, and then in other ways still so small. I'm so pleased to be expecting again but becoming more anxious about what it all means for dd - she still feels like my "baby" in so many ways. Realisticaly I know the changes coming will be positive ones but will miss it just being the three of us too. No real point to this but just needed to share - probably not the first to feel like this.

Oh Twiga you sound lovely, I want to come and give you a big hug

No real opinion to share but just wanted to send "arrrr" thoughts

Awww I know how you feel.
I was doing that this time last year.
We were moving house and I was expecting our ds.
I looked through all of dd's baby clothes, boxed them up and agreed to give them to someone who we knew was having a girl.
I kept a few outfits that meant something or that were particularly cute

I remember feeling quite scared about the thought of going from 3 to 4. Very overwhelming but fantastic too.

huge hugs I remeber been petrified when I was expecting DD1. I adore DS and couldnt see how another baby would fit in with us etc. We didnt know if DD was a boy or girl which I think made it even harder in a way as I kept worrying generally how they would fit in. Now it is 15mths on and DD1 is adorable aswell and her and DS love each other and they also both are very besotted with DD2 who is nearly 3mths old.

We have three. We have decided that three is enough and are definitely not having any more. I bagged up all their baby clothes to see on ebay.

They're all stuffed at the back of the toy cupboard as I can't bear to get rid of them because then it will be final.

{{hug}}

Twiga, I can relate to where you are coming from. I am pregnant with no2 who is a little boy. My first child was a girl and I too have been through the old clothes picking out the ones that are unisex and mourning a little that the lovely girlie clothes won't get used this time! I got very emotional doing this...
They have all gone back into the loft as we would like more kids in the future (providing I have a better birth experience this time anyway! ) My dd is just 22 months at the moment and is really starting to be very independant but is still very much my baby at times. I wonder sometimes if having another child so soon is the best thing for her (bit late now I know as I am 28 weeks pg!). I think it is probably normal - big changes are afoot and it must be natural to question them? Surely?

I was the same.

I got really upset at the thought of not using DD's clothes again and how it would all be so different with a DS (a very much wanted DS, I might add). DD was 2.3 when DS born (now 9 weeks) and we're not having anymore but I can't seem to get around to getting rid of any of DD's baby stuff.

I must add DD & DS adore each other already, in fact DD has tried to breastfeed DS on more than one occasion!

Sorry to have posted then run but dd woke up from her nap just as I was snivelling on my sofa. Thanks for your replies, it's hard isn't it? I think the strangest thing is it's such a happy time it feels odd to feel sad too! DD is tething at the min and really sore, I just stopped bf coming up 2 months ago and part of me rally hankers to be able to offer that comfort, even though I can't anymore (body couldn't keep with bf and being pg). It's strange thinking about bfinf another baby, all I can picture is feeding dd. DD still very cuddly though so big hugs and stories seem to help.

Redfraggle - you must be due just before me - I'm coming 27 wks. It's sooo tiring trying to keep up a toddler, don't remember feeling this drained last time.

The whole bfing thing is soo cute, dd sometimes feeds her doll or teddies. We have a picture book called my new baby and she likes to point out that the baby is having "juice" whenever we get to the picture of the mum bfing the baby.

See what you mean about things staying in cupboards, have to say I can see boxes of small clothes being in my attic long after theey've all left home.

Hi Twiga,

Yes it is definitely very different being pregnant second time round isn't it?! No time for lounging on the sofa navel gazing! I have put on a lot less this weight this time (probably all that racing around after dd keeping me active).
With regards storing baby stuff etc, we joke that there is more stuff up in the loft than in the rest of the house! When we were toddler proofing the house we put quite a bit of furniture up in the loft "for the future" too. It will probably come down and go straight to the tip by the time we have completed our family!
Anyway, just think how lovely it will be for your dd to have a little playmate so close in age, that is what I try to focus on...

Both DH and I got very emotional whilst I was pregnant with DS2 and in fact it was DH's worries about not just being the three of us that made us wait a while before having another (only 2.4 years in them anyway)
I'll never forget driving DS1 to my parents when I'd gone into labour and just howling that it would be the last time we'd ever just be three and what if it all went wrong and if we had an awful second child....we didn't of course and they love each other dearly!!