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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

I'm having difficulty calming down.

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FrostyPopThePenguinLord · 05/07/2017 10:47

Back story is I've had an ectopic and a miscarriage at 7 weeks since January when we started trying for a baby. I got pregnant straight after the miscarriage and I'm currently 6+1.
I've been having central abdominal pain of varying intensity and last week I was in and out of hospital for several days until I was far enough along for a scan to check it wasn't another ectopic, bloods looked good but they couldn't be certain because i was in so much pain still.
The pain feels like period pains but they get so bad that I've been on the floor screaming which is what made my husband take me to hospital.
We now know it's not ectopic, it's in a healthy place and looking good for this stage. I'm still getting the pain but basically I've been told I need to relax because I'm making it worse by being anxious.
I've been given some codine but I only take it when the pain is awful and it works but I would like to be able to relax enough for it to go away by itself.
Even though it's not ectopic I still can't relax because this is what happened with my miscarriage, they told me I was safe from ectopic and then I lost it anyway.
It's all piling up, I'm stressed because work sent me home as my job is too dangerous and I only just started there. I want to bond with the baby but I don't want to get my hopes up in case it fails again.
On top of this the consultant told me not to worry she knew a lady that had 10 miscarriages and then 3 healthy babies....that does not make me feel better. I know I've not had it as bad as some but no one wants to go through that!
Does anyone have any advice on how to reduce stress at all?
I'm worried I'm affecting the baby and the pain is horrible. I know pregnancy is uncomfortable but this is excruciating and I'm only 6 weeks in!

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kayleigh612 · 05/07/2017 23:32

YouTube
Pregnancy meditation
Listen to it before going to bed and when u feel anxious

Helps me I'm in a similar situation
Had a miscarriage and now newly pregnant found out last week
So really anxious about early stages

Hope this helps X

peachgreen · 06/07/2017 11:14

OP it really doesn't sound normal to be having pain like that. Have you been back to your GP?

FrostyPopThePenguinLord · 06/07/2017 11:44

I've spent most of the last week in hospital and I'm under their care for regular scans until I'm 8 weeks plus. It's not ectopic and the pregnancy and all my other organs look normal apparently. I know I'm making it worse by being anxious but it's very difficult to relax.
The consultant said that early pregnancy can be uncomfortable and I could just be having a particularly bad time of it in the same way some people are horrendously sick and others get nothing.
The problem is they can't really give me anything to calm me down because I'm pregnant so I'm trying really hard to relax, it's just easier said than done x

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peachgreen · 06/07/2017 13:29

I just can't believe they're leaving you in pain that causes you to scream out - I'm really shocked. I've never heard of anyone being in that much pain from a normal pregnancy. How utterly awful for you, you poor thing.

FrostyPopThePenguinLord · 06/07/2017 13:56

Well the second time I left hospital they gave me pain killers but the first time I went home they told me to take paracetamol, the next day I was in so much pain I threw up and my husband drove me back in.
Basically once they determined it wasn't ectopic they were not as concerned anymore. Let's be honest they probably have more pressing emergencies than a 6 week pregnancy.
All that can really happen now is a miscarriage which is unfortunate but not really a massive medical emergency like an ectopic...(consultants words not mine.....)
Obviously for me it's the end of the world but for them it's not the most awful thing in the hospital!
It's another reason I'm stressing, I know they are not really taking me seriously, they just think it's a mild normal pregnancy aches.and pains being exacerbated by an overanxious mother x

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confusedat23 · 06/07/2017 15:46

Hey OP

I had this until about 10 weeks into my preganancy. It turned out I had free fluid in my pelvis which was being created by the Corpus Luteum cyst on my Ovary. God it was AGONY! They gave me Codine and I took it once and it did not even touch the pain... the only thing that made it bareable was to sit against a hot water bottle 24/7. This is perfectly fine to do btw! as long as it is not directly on the skin and is not burning you.

Sorry I do not have anything else to suggest but I was told it would pass when the Placenta took over and it was completely gone by 10 Weeks.

HTH xx

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