Pregnant after late medical termination - reassurance needed!

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The title says it all, I am pregnant about 9 months after a late medically recommended termination (which was as horrible and heart-breaking as it sounds)...I am not feeling v. positive about this pregnancy, I am 6 weeks along and going for a scan tomorrow...I have some symptoms - bit of sickness, sore boobs etc, but been bleeding a bit and having none of the stretching feelings I had at the beginning of my last pregnancy. I suppose I am looking for reassurance, did anyone have a successful 1st trimester, but not have any of the stretchy / twingy pains? I have had them maybe once or twice during the last few weeks...thanks so much!

With my healthy pregnancies I remember feeling like I had no symptoms at all at the time. On reflection I did have symptoms but for whatever reason I didn't notice them.

Each pregnancy is different please try not to compare. Hope everything goes well with your scan tomorrow

Hello, I'm so sorry to hear about your previous loss, it is of course affecting how you feel this time around, completely naturally. I never had any real symptoms early on in the first trimester. It is very common. I'm sending you good wishes and lots of strength x

Thank you for your good wishes, been lurking on various threads wondering whether to post or not! I am trying really hard not to over-analyse everything, but after the year we have had, it's hard not to...! These first few weeks are the worst!

The first half of pregnancy is horrible. Well for me anyway. It's completely natural to feel anxious after going through what that you have.

My losses were early and I had days in my healthy pregnancies where I convinced myself I didn't feel sick enough etc and would just sob. It does get much better after a clear 20 week scan and you start to feel movement but for me the anxiety didn't go away fully was just easier to cope with.

We had a medical termination a few years ago and I found myself pregnant a few months later. I don't think pregnancy is ever the same experience after a loss, particularly quite late on (I was 18 weeks). You lose your innocence and ability to put your faith in hope. I found the first 20 weeks were mainly to be endured, I tried to put it out of my mind but the 'what ifs' are very hard to bite down.

Just try and take one day at a time, make sure medical professionals know your history and get reassurance where you can. I also recommend ARC for help and support - the forum can be really invaluable for venting!

If it's any consolation my first rainbow baby has just had his settling in days for school and his little sister is upstairs napping right now - most pregnancies are fine, we have both just been heartbreakingly unlucky in the past.

TronaldDump - thank you for your words, it is lovely to hear that your dcs are alive and kicking...and I'm so sorry for your loss too, you are absolutely right that the innocence is lost, I still think about the baby we lost every day and wonder if we could / should have done things differently...but of course, that is completely futile...

Holdbacktheriver - I'm so sorry for your losses too, i know the crying because you're not sick feeling....i just keep willing myself to feel a twinge or a cramp or anything to show me something is growing!

This will be my 6th pregnancy (we have 2 healthy children) and I wonder if I need to call time on trying again if this one doesn't work out...we had a v. serious complication back in the autumn where a new pregnancy implanted on my C-section scar and I wonder if someone is trying to tell me something!

UPDATE - just wanted to update that I went for a scan last Wednesday and there was a heartbeat and baby is developing as it should...I am obviously not out of the woods yet, as I'm only 7 weeks now, but for the time being I can breathe a small sigh of relief...still nowhere near as sick as my previous pregnancies, but as they say, every pregnancy is different...thank you for your reassurances, next scan at 8.5 weeks, so fingers crossed for then.

2nd UPDATE: So, just wanted to reassure people reading that I have had another 2 weeks with no symptoms and had totally convinced myself of the worst, but went for my 8.5 week scan yesterday and all was totally fine...I am feeling ever so slightly more nauseous now very occasionally, but nothing even close to my first three pregnancies, I still haven't had any cramping and no real food aversions, sleeping through the night without needing to wee etc...so hope that reassures people who like me have had v. few symptoms...I don't think I'll feel like I'm out of the woods for a long while yet, but today at least, all is well.

glad everything is progressing well OP

thank you :)

Glad all is well. I've had largely symptom free pregnancies that have been fine, hope it's the same for you.