Husband wants to come to obstetrician appointment

[Thingymaboob]

My husband is amazing. I have hyperemesis and he's been doing everything for me and not complaining. He just gets on with it and goes absolutely out of his way to make sure I'm comfortable and attended to. I have an appointment with an obstetrician on Tuesday for hyperemesis, previous lletz and depression and anxiety. He wants to come as he wants to be supportive and involved in everything. I don't want him to come as I want to vent and talk to the obstetrician very honestly about how awful I feel. My husband knows I feel low and he's aware of how sick I've been but I don't want him to worry more than he already is. I'm also a medical professional who works in the hospital I'm being seen in so a lot of what we talk about will be a little bit more in depth.
I know I should feel lucky (and I do) to have such a wonderful husband who is supportive. I don't know why I feel like this.

Can you not use this as a chance to have your 15 minutes without him there?... tbh though you just need to tell him he can come but you need him to wait outside whilst you discuss stuff in detail

Excuse my ignorance as this might not be the remotely helpful at all...but I have an appointment with a councillor next month and the lady has specifically requested I go alone (into the room, of course I can drive with someone etc). Perhaps you could tell your husband that this rule applies to your appointment too?

Just explain to him that you need to have this discussion alone so you can discuss everything you need to at your own pace (ie, quicker than his) to get the most out of the appointment. You'll give him a run through (of the bits you want him to know) afterwards. That you need to be able to speak to the doctor without having to censor yourself in any way for him.

He should understand that.

Just be honest with him. I'm in the same boat and can talk about anything to my amazing husband but when we have these sort of appointments he knows when he's got to give me some space. Good luck.

I totally understand what you mean. My husband comes to all my appointments, at his request. And just gets in the way. He talks over me, interrupts, answers for me (in his quest of trying to be 'helpful') and generally makes me forget all the things I want to ask.

I tend to do better on my own at appointments and things.