GOOD excuses for not drinking hen night!!!

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Hey, I have been invited to a hen night this weekend, for my partners cousin.
So all of his female family will be there. His sister and his brother fiance know as I am close to them, and they said they wont say anything its my decision obviously.
I am not close to the others, and don't really want to say I'm pregnant if I can help it.
My 12 week scan isn't until the friday after when I will actually be 14 weeks with twins and be telling everyone if all is well.
I wouldn't usually mind telling them as I had a scan at 10 weeks and all was well, but I am a worrier, and also me and my partner aren't getting on amazingly at the moment, and I don't want to be having to gush about babies and all the questions, pretending to be happy when I'm feeling down about my partner etc.
Antibiotics? What for? I literally am rubbish at lying. Xx

You had a blood test and head a high liver function result so not allowed to drink until it's been repeated?
I had this before i found out I was pregnant, I think I had a sinus infection at the time. It was a giant pain in the arse because it meant they referred me straight to consultant but the repeat test was fine. I think it's supposed to be lower than 30 and mine was 113, no explanation. They did however ask me how often I was binge drinking! I had a martini about 16 months before the test but that's it.
Good excuse not to drink.

Haha I love it! I will message my two knowing sister in laws this evening to get their opinions on the situation and to help me out! I'm not sure if pretending to drink will work, as we are starting at her mums, getting a party limo with drinks, and then a casino or something... but with two girls on hand to help it may be doable! And then very laughable after! Xx

If people guess they guess, but hopefully they won't say flat out they don't believe you as that would be very rude and intrusive!

If you're 11 weeks with twins you've surely begun to show? I'd just tell people

I said "congratulations" to a senior manager at work and she was like "oh, I didn't realise it was common knowledge" I just looked at her obvious bump and said "ok but..." I diffused situation by saying I'm pregnant too

A lot of people will guess. If they're polite they won't mention it, but it's quite likely someone rude will ask directly if you're pregnant.

In your shoes I would pull out of the do, tell people beforehand or pretend to drink alcohol.

Being pregnant isn't an excuse to ask women about their (possible) pregnancy Thingymaboob!

I wasn't really asking about her pregnancy - it was common knowledge and she was 21 weeks with a really obvious bump. Do you think it's unreasonable to say "congratulations" in that situation. She was wearing a really well fitting top

Antibiotics is so obvious. You might as well just tell the truth than say that because it's such an overused excuse that I'd be surprised anyone actually believes it anymore.

Having seen and heard about friends and colleagues with weight or health problems (eg IBS, fibroids) being mortified by people's congratulations, and had mcs and diastasis recti and had upsetting Qs myself, I don't allude to acquaintances' (apparent) pregnancy unless they do.

Bit random but could you say you're going in for an operation and you were told no alcohol for the prior 48 hrs? If they're nosy enough to ask "what operation", just say "ah it's nothing serious, don't worry" ie it's frickin personal

I personally think it's bizarre not to say congratulations when

1. you know they are pregnant because you work in same division and other people know
2. they are obviously showing As someone who has miscarried and has had people offer seats on trains because they thought I was pregnant, it honestly never occurred to me that someone would find it uneasy to be congratulated under those circumstances

Or if you weren't that fussed about going, have food poisoning and stay at home

I had a works do when I was 8 weeks. A cocktail bar then a meal and drinks after. I had one friend at work that knew. We told the barman in the cocktail bar and asked him to make me a non alcoholic version of her drink and he did.
My friend drank my gin and tonic at dinner while I poured tonic in am empty glass. This lasted a while and nobody noticed at all they were too involved in conversation. After that they were too drunk to notice what I was doing and I just told the barmaid in the pub to swap my gin and tonic for just tonic. I'd go with pretending to drink personally and acting non chalantly

Up to you thingymaboob. Many women won't mind. Some women do find it difficult when others comment on their bodies. It sounds like your colleague did.

I know. I felt really awkward. I guess I've just been so open about everything even though I've had miscarriages and stuff and she was obviously showing so didn't think it was a secret...

I'd feign a terrible sickness bug and pretend to drop out. Then it would emerge it was a 24 hour thing and that you think you can possibly make it. You feel well enough a few hours before and like a true trooper you make it. Like a true hero who couldn't let the bride down.

But drinking? Noooo, they wouldn't dare ask

I was such a boozer that I'm just putting off all social events, luckily I have a hugely busy job so can blame that. OP I'd make pals with the barperson and get them to sub your drinks all night.

Allies make this loads easier! Can you not have a word with one of the bar staff and order vodka (wink) and coke or gin (wink) and tonic?

You could get in a round with the two that you know and they could be also buying you fake drinks so it doesn't look obvious. They can also sneakily drink any shots or toasts that get passed round. Worked well for me

Yep what 36plus said. They will all guess anyway but at least you won't have to answer any questions about it!

After seeing a pregnant friend use 'antibiotics' as an excuse and watch EVERYONE see right through it I knew I couldn't go there.
I was at a wedding last weekend with my OH and we swapped drinks the whole time. It was quite exhausting until everyone was so drunk that nobody noticed but it worked a treat. I told my best friend the next day and she couldn't believe it. I'm looking forward to everybody knowing so I can just enjoy my non-alcoholic beverages guilt free! I hate the lying but was proud of how well we worked it out!

I always assume pregnancy when someone says anti b's.
I think the best excuse is to say you had a massive night the previous night and that you're really hungover

Just drink soda water and say there's vodka in it ? Or say you feel sick?

Fake drinking is the best option. Antibiotics is a dead giveaway. Realistically if you had a terrible infection would you be out partying? Probably not.

I went on a girls night out when I was 11 weeks and just drank "gin" and tonics. Someone bought a bottle of prosecco and I just pretended to sip it. By the time everyone else was 3 drinks in they weren't paying attention to what I was doing.