Apologies in advance as this will probably be long.
Where to start?!
I started a new relationship approx 10 months ago after finishing with my partner of 6 years. I have one daughter from that relationship and one from a previous relationship. Moving on 6 months and my new partner was offered a job in Scotland, he is Scottish . I have always lived down south but have no family down there.
I decided to move with partner and start a new life , offering to bring both girls back every school holiday at my expense. I have never prevented contact but had full residency with no specified contact due to dad ones previous unreasonable behaviour.
Both dads disagreed , took me to court 5 days before proposed move and won.
By this point I had given up my job, my home and my stuff was already in Scotland. I tried everything I could to stay , the council would only accept me as homeless and not the children and said they would house me in a hostel where I would not be able to have the children as it specified in the court order that both men owned their own homes . The terms of the court order were so incredibly resitrictive I was tied to a very specific , very affluent area.
I felt I had little choice but to leave the girls and continue to fight for them which is what I am still doing. I have found it incredibly difficult , I am a super strong person but this whole experience has broken me.
Fast forward again and I found out I am pregnant which is far from ideal, but after 12 years of having and a child and suddenly having none maybe gave me a little something to grasp onto.
Had my booking in appointment a few weeks ago and my first scan yesterday and midwife has rung me today to say she is referring me to social services because the children aren't with me. I feel utterly devastated by this and have tried to explain to her that I am desperately fighting for them , that I have caffcass safeguarding reports showing that I am not known to the police/social services/nobody is saying I have done anything wrong other then the 2 dads simply don't want their children in Scotland. Yet she is still referring me.
Does anybody know what they will do?? I feel like this is not extra stress that I need on top of what is already the most stressful time of my life 😢