First pregnancy and panicking

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So I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant 2 weeks about. I'm now 7 weeks and have come around to the idea of having a baby.
It's not that I didn't want children but we have just brought a house that needs works, and I'd just committed to fat club again (SW) and paid for a 12 week plan the day before finding out!!

But now I can't stop panicking!! I am terrified of a miscarriage and keep checking for blood, I'm panicking that my weight will affect the baby (I'm a size 16, but have put on a stone and a half in the past 6 months) and I am terrified of telling my employer as I have only been there since march!

I know I'm being stupid but I can't stop it ! Anyone else being like this?!

It's normal to be panicked I think Just try and remember that there is never a "perfect" time to have a baby and even if you had finished your sw course, something else probably would have come up.
Just try to relax, I know it's hard. Every time I go for a wee, I shine my phone torch down the loo to make sure there's no blood
Congratulations on your pregnancy!

I was totally like this, and now I am just over 12 weeks I have got marginally better but still I err on the overcautious side of things.
It is not particularly helpful information but what has helped me is knowing / telling myself that there is unfortunately nothing I can do to stop anything bad.
As long as you are doing all the right things, vitamins, not smoking, not drinking etc etc. then there is nothing else you can do.
Apparently most miscarriages are the result of chromosomal/genetic abnormalities.
Cakes is correct imo, I do not believe there is a "good" time to have a child, we just make the most of what we have.
With regards to your weight, gentle regular exercise e.g. 30 minute walks or swims will help keep you fit in yourself and if you are seriously worried then request a test for gestational diabetes. If caught early it is manageable but is not always caused by high weight so there is a good chance you won't get it :) .
I am a size 12/14 and I have got "bigger" in the last 3 months but have actually put on no weight yet.

It's pretty common to panic 😊 I'm a size 20 and my pregnancy was fine

It's normal to feel like that. Coincidetally when I found out we were about to buy a new house that didn't need work as fed up of doing up my current house!! I had just beem half way through sw 12 week course and wondered why I'd stopped losing weight and I found out in March and I'd only been employed since January. I told work in may that I was pregnant. Was terrified debut they've all been over the moon for me!! These things happen and your work will be absolutely fine. I still worry now at 18 weeks nearly that baby isn't okay. It's a natural feeling until they are here i imagine! Try to enjoy your pregnancy xx

Also you'll get a maternity card through soon where you can swim for free this may help with the weight. You can also still go to slimming world. They give you extra a and b to have. Midwives actually recommend slimming world x

Thank you all so much! Got first appointment on Saturday so hopefully this will help too!!

Congratulations to you all xx

It's perfectly normal to feel like this, especially if this is your first. They will most likely check your BMI and always encourage healthy eating. You'll worry about every little thing until baby is here. And then you'll worry 10x more about every little thing

I was terrified and mine was a result of IVF so not in the least bit unexpected! I found that once the scans and appointments started things got easier as there was always the next thing to look towards. And I tried to carry on with life as normal in between, rather than think about being pregnant all the time!

Definitely carry on with slimming world. Plenty of people actually lose weight during pregnancy, if you're overweight it's totally possible to not gain weight and SW is a really great diet that allows for weird cravings! Congratulations .

I had exactly the same panic re: my weight but I've actually lost 8lbs in the 6 weeks since I found out I was pregnant without even really trying that hard - I've been counting calories as normal but I certainly haven't been starving myself, just eating little and often which is better for my morning sickness. Pregnancy doesn't have to result in weight gain, it's not inevitable, and SW will help you maintain your current weight through your first and second trimester. Talk to your GP who will be able to advise you what your ideal weight gain will be throughout your pregnancy (it varies dependent on your BMI).

Can't help you with the miscarriage thing I'm afraid as I'm just as bad - I don't think I'll ever stop knicker-checking! But it will ease over time (apparently!).

Firstly, congrats on your pregnancy. It's exciting and terrifying at the same time!

Secondly, now you know, it helps to make a plan regarding DIY. I also bought a doer upper of a house. We got a few basic jobs done before I fell pregnant, but there was an awful lot left to do. You need to have a good, thorough look at finances, time scales, how much work you're willing/able to do as time goes on, and see which jobs need prioritising. We made sure we had at least one room upstairs and downstairs we could live in when the baby arrived and aimed for just that. The rest of the house was a mess, but so what? I'm not trying to impress any midwives who visited. We literally printed off monthly calendars and pretended to be project managers. It was exhausting, but I was pleased with what we managed to get done. It is easier to do it now rather than with a baby, although I wouldn't recommend painting ceilings at 7.5 months pregnant if you can avoid it though! Life does go on afterwards though, we've gotten plenty done since our little boy was born too.

Don't worry about SW. Women of all sizes have healthy pregnancies, and if they think your weight is an issue, they'll offer you extra care.

As for the miscarriage worry, I don't think the worry ever quite goes away. You feel better when you see them at the scan, or you hear the heartbeat but even once they're born, you worry they're okay all the time. That's being a parent! Good luck!