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What are we going to do financially? HG related

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PayingMyWayYouSay · 26/06/2017 14:02

I can't physically get to work. My HG is just so terrible I can hardly keep my head up sometimes.

Due to the nature of my job, I can't work from home at all.

My sick pay was generous as it is but if I need more time away now, I'll have to claim government sick pay which is something like £60 a week Sad

We have a house to pay for and all other expenses that don't stop just because one of you is ill.

What do I do? Force myself somehow? Put myself on breaking edge?

I just feel so helpless and worried.

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PayingMyWayYouSay · 26/06/2017 18:41

AnotherEmma Thank you Flowers

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littledinaco · 26/06/2017 19:44

What medication have you tried?
Have you seen a specialist consultant?

I had HG the whole way through 3 pregnancies (in and out of hospital on drips, etc).
I had tried several medications without success but then on my 3rd pregnancy I saw a specialist (I had to really 'fight' to get seen though). I was put on a combination of different medications (one of which was ondansatron that pp mentioned-it is often not prescribed as it's v.expensive. I had in 'melt' form so didn't risk throwing it up).

The consultant said that in many years of treating HG, she had only come across one woman who medication had not worked for. There are different types of sickness and different medications (even the same type but in a different form) work differently and you may have to take several together.

I would really push to see someone as the difference the medication made was massive.

SleepymrsE · 26/06/2017 19:51

Another one to say, if you haven't already, ask for a referral to the hospital. I was on a combination of odansatron & cyclizine from about 8 weeks through to birth. It was the only thing that seemed to work and allowed me to go back to work at about 16 weeks. HG is horrible so I really do feel for you.

SirNiallDementia · 26/06/2017 19:52

Get decent medication.

Can you take some annual leave - this is paid-?

Start MAT leave early so your MAT pay starts? You can start it from 11 weeks before your due date.

Have you got any things to sell or car boot?

Can your DP pick up additional hours or get an evening/ weekend job?

FlapAttack88 · 26/06/2017 19:57

Sorry not read all of this but if you are up to it can you ask your dr for a geNero us phased return ti work suggestion? As soon as you start this you are entitled to full pay bit can try make it so it is a very low amount of work with houra that work around your worst times at beginning and then over an extended period of time build it up?

Are you on the hyperemesis support thread here? Post this there.. Lots of experience there.

So sorry you're in this position . I narrowly avoided it as mine eased around 22 weeks enough for me to begin phased return which I am still on at 25 weeks. I also had to put my 2 year old on full.time as nursery even on my 2 das off so finances were hugely under pressure... we were lucky that we had been saving for a house so just ate into our savings x

PayingMyWayYouSay · 26/06/2017 20:36

Hi ladies (I'm assuming you all are? Grin).

I am in Cyclizine. It's the strongest thing I can take due to another medical condition. I have to be extremely careful. Other drugs can easily impact my meds I take for it so I was really lucky to have been given Cyclizine... of which without I was sobbing on the bathroom floor each morning/night wondering when it'd all end Sad

Flap Sorry if I've misread but did you say I'd get full pay for reduced hours? May I ask how so? Surely if I'm doing 3 days a week or something, I would get paid for those 3 days and nothing else since I'm no longer full time?

Thank you for all these replies Flowers

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Thingymaboob · 26/06/2017 20:38

@PayingMyWayYouSay so are you absolutely sure you can't have ondansetron?

PayingMyWayYouSay · 26/06/2017 20:40

Thingy It's one of the things I suggested after a bit of research before.

It was a big no. It's not just the drug itself, it's how it'll react with my medication.

I have quite severe lupus and I have to be so careful otherwise I will end up incredibly ill.

I am sorry to poo poo the suggestionSad it's just that I have tried for that and it's been a no

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Thingymaboob · 26/06/2017 21:00

@PayingMyWayYouSay oh gosh you poor thing! You must be under a consultant obstetrician then. What's their take on it?

PayingMyWayYouSay · 26/06/2017 21:12

Thingy I am indeed, my Lupus specialist is also involved.

They just look at me with worried looks and are often wanting me to go into hospital on a drip. But I'm keeping water down most times now so there's really no need. Ketons are fine more often than not.

It's just a hellish wait for the arrival of baby Sad Interestingly, one consultant says she'd be happy to induce me at 37 weeks because of it.

I've not heard of this before so was quite taken aback that she'd consider it

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FlapAttack88 · 26/06/2017 21:21

If its as part of a phased return to work plan then yes technically they should pay you as normal. Needs to be the phased return to work box ticked though not altered hours box.needs to be worded so carefully though you're right. . PregnAny sickness may be able to give you more detail about that.. I remember reading it on a thread here so I made sure to follow that advice and it's meant I am on full pay even though working less hours at moment ... may be lucky with my employer not being an arse though..Having to agree on things like this is the last thing you'll feel.up. to right now :( definitely call sickness support helpline who can look into fine details for you x

littledinaco · 26/06/2017 21:25

Have you mentioned metrocloprimide (sp?) to your consultant?

When you say you are keeping water down, is it just food you are throwing up or are you suffering from really bad nausea too? Sometimes the nausea can be as bad as the vomiting.
Avomine (travel sickness you buy over the counter-but obviously you would need to check with the consultant) can work really well for nausea when combined with other anti-sickness meds.

I would go in on the drip if they recommend it, even if keytones are ok. It's not just water in the drip (they usually have salts,etc to rehydrate properly and anti emetics-obviously depending on what you can take with your other medication) but they can be more effective if given via a drip.
I've been in on a drip lots and honestly you feel soooooo much better, even if it's just for a couple of days, it's really worth it.

Lots of sleep/rest is proven to help with HG so if you could go in on a drip and rest it might help you get ontop of it a bit to then allow you to work later on.

Make sure your birth plan includes anti-emetics in labour as HG can go worse during labour and getting dehydrated can slow/stop your labour.

Hollyhop17 · 26/06/2017 21:30

Sorry to hear this. I have HG, 36+5 and being induced at 38 weeks because of it. I spent most of my time off work sick, I probably only worked a total of 2 months since finding out I was pregnant and am off on mat leave now. Can you talk to work about sick pay? Is there anyway they would consider still paying given the circumstances?

From one HG sufferer to another you have my sympathies. It is honestly the worst thing to ever happen to me.

Thingymaboob · 26/06/2017 21:44

NHS sick pay means you get a month of full sick pay per year worked (up to 6 months) plus the same length half pay I think. I don't think there's any wiggle room on that but nhs will be amazingly flexible with working with what you can do

FanSpamTastic · 26/06/2017 21:51

What do you do for work - do you work in any particular industry? There are very many benevolent associations set up with funds to help people from that industry. I appreciate you may not wish to say but try googling your job or industry plus benevolent association and see if one turns up.

E.g.

Motor industry - here

Retail industry - here

RaeSkywalker · 26/06/2017 22:01

Flowers for you OP.

I was in a similar situation and had to force myself into work. I basically ran to the toilets countless times a day. Work were good at making adjustments for me, but it was horrific. Shame you're only allowed cyclizine- you must feel awful.

The other thing to bear in mind is that your employer has a duty of care, so HR will probably be keeping a close eye on you to see if you 'should' be there.

So sorry you're going through this.

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