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Over 40s, how many miscarriages before a sticky bean?

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ForTheLoveOfHedgehogs · 26/06/2017 14:00

Hi, really apologise for the possibly insensitive subject. But I'm 42. One miscarriage at 36, then unexplained infertility for almost 6 years until endometriosis was discovered and removed a month before I turned 42. Since then I've had two pregnancies. Each took 3-4 months to conceive, but both miscarried at 6-7wks.

So three miscarriages in total. I'm trying to decide whether my eggs are now just too old and cranky. Is this just going to be months and months of misery if I continue to try? Or is there a possibility of a happy ending? Obviously I am only getting older. Each miscarriage takes its toll. Not just the miscarriage itself but all the constant mentalling and stress from the moment of the bfp. I have no children currently (if that makes a difference).

I know everyone is different, and there is no magic formula. But I wanted to know your experiences (if you are happy to share). I know from reading the pregnant over 40 thread that there are many successful pregnancies. But I was wondering if that is sometimes after a struggle. The stats suggest a 45% miscarriage rate at my age, but from what I read it often seems much higher. Just trying to get some perspective at a dark time. Thank you.

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Justmadeperfectflapjacks · 26/06/2017 14:03

Over 40 getting pregnant isn't always the hard part - staying pregnant is as you now know. Thinning of the uterine lining is an issue. . Lots of info on Google about things to do to help it thicken!! I had ds at 43 on the 3rd month. Ttc at 44 has resulted in 3 chemicals and a mc at 8 weeks. Given up now. Sad
Good luck on your journey. .

TwoDogs9 · 26/06/2017 20:12

I'm not quite 40 (39!) but had four miscarriages before our DS was born in Jan. My losses were caused by a blood clotting disorder so I had to inject with clexane and take aspirin throughout this pregnancy and it worked!! Smile

Good luck! Flowers

SuperSange · 26/06/2017 21:02

Here too. I'm so sorry. I had three and then had investigations which revealed an unknown blood disorder. I was given a clexane prescription and was told to get it the same day I got a bfp. Injections every day until the day I went into labour, aged 43. Have you started investigations lovely? Flowers

twinkle1972 · 26/06/2017 21:22

I had first (and only) MC at 44 last year. Now 14 weeks pregnant at 45 Smile

twinkle1972 · 26/06/2017 21:24

I also have 3 other children but they were born a long time ago! Now 18,19 and 21

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