How did you get through the first 12 weeks?

[AnxietyForever]

I'm around 7 weeks pregnant. I had a early scan last week and have seen the heart beat! BUT I'm still sooo worried! I do have symptoms but all I can think of is MMC etc. I had a early loss at 5 weeks last year and I think this had aided my anxiety.
How did you all do it??

Congrats on your pregnancy and great news they picked up a heartbeat that lowers your miscarriage chances significantly so just try and stay positive. I'm 10 weeks, I've just taken one day at a time and, it has gone slowly but i did start to feel less worried at about 8 weeks, everyday the risk goes down and remember if a stat says you have a 5-10 percent chance of miscarriage that means you have a 90+ percent chance of everything being fine. The stats are higher for the very early weeks but you much safer now. Sorry about your previous loss, I know it must make it a lot more stressful

I had two miscarriages one missed (baby died at 9w5d) and then 'natural' at approx 8 weeks...Im now 18 weeks and I completely understand how you feel it's completely normal to feel very very... Very anxious. I have no advice, my ms kicked in at 7 weeks and I was shattered and despite it dragging on forever I somehow got to 12 weeks scan which turned out to be at 13w1d. So I have no advice except big hugs I wish you all the best xxx

I'm so sorry to hear of your previous loss, I found the first 12 weeks terribly hard and was very anxious, even though this was my first pregnancy. Time seemed to go very slowly! I would say be kind to yourself, try and find some fun things to do to distract yourself and / or some good relaxation techniques. Try and remind yourself that the odds are in your favour of things going well too.

Thank you for you're kind words. It really does help. I see the midwife on Wednesday so hopefully that will put my mind at ease too. Some days are better than others too.
I know once I've had my 12 week scan I will feel much more relaxed. Just 5 more weeks to go

Its so hard, but remember that even when the miscarriage risk is 25%, there's still a 75% chance of everything being ok. Take each day as it comes and try to carry on with life as sitting at home worrying won't change the outcome, I found swimming and getting into a good book great distractions.

I've been in your position OP and I totally feel what you are going through right now! I'm at 9 weeks now and we had an early scan a few weeks ago, have another on Tuesday for reassurance. I would say try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy (symptoms aside!) and if you feel like you need to put your mind at rest in the meantime, could you maybe look at booking a private scan? It's worth the reassurance if you can afford it. I'm sure all will be fine especially if you've seen a heartbeat I think it lowers the risk. Good luck and congrats on your pregnancy

A private scan might help, focusing on the positive side of the statistics and if you can manage it- stay away from google!! No good will come of it in those early weeks!

I read your last post when you were going for the scan and I'm so happy all is ok.
You just have to take one day at a time but I know the first 12 weeks are so worrying and the weeks seem to drag. I remember at 8 or 9 weeks all my symptoms disappeared and I was so worried even tho I had seen the heartbeat at 7 weeks (12 week scan all fine!), just don't Google things as this can make you even more worried.
We are hoping to try for number 2 next year and I can't wait to be pregnant again but would like to skip the first trimester and jump straaight to feeling them move

Congrats. I'm at 17wrrks and still terrified of mmc x

Hi Anxiety I've been in your position as I had an early mc 2 years ago and then got a bfp back in March. I didn't contact my surgery until I was 8 weeks as I was cinvinced it wouldn't stick so didnt see me until 10 weeks and had first scan at 13w 2d. The time was dragging... but I kept telling myself what will be will be and tried to stay positive. I'm now approaching my 20 week scan (Wednesday) and up until a week ago I've been so relaxed about it all but this last week has been awfully long as I've worked myself up with worry. Just try and take a day at a time and hopefully all will fine. Good luck

I'm sorry for your previous loss OP, but congrats on your pregnancy.

I had a chemical pregnancy back in March and then fell pregnant again in April so I have been very on edge since then. In all honesty what got me through it was the love and support of my DH and almost putting the pregnancy to the back of my mind a bit (easier said than done!) I've focused on getting my finances in order and redecorating the house and now I'm 11+2 so almost there :)

I plan to relax and enjoy my pregnancy a lot more once I see that 12 week scan.

Thank you for all you're comments. I feel loads better today so hopefully the next few weeks will go by quickly enough for me to relax. I bet I will still be anxious after 12 weeks
I suppose it won't go away until the baby is born and then it's on to worrying about the baby. Ahhh the joys of parent hood