Coming to terms with this being my last pregnancy

[PayingMyWayYouSay]

I feel at peace with the reality now, but, that's probably due to crippling HG

This is my 5th pregnancy, will be first baby. I'm only 19. I have endometriosis and PCOS. I'm on my last ovary now, of which will have to be removed for medical reasons after DS is born.

DH is 25 and I feel as if he will want more eventually? He is quite upset that there won't be a 2nd but is incredibly supportive of me and would move mountains for me.

I dare say I won't feel the pain of a totally childless mother ever again, but will I feel guilty at some point?

Grandmother says he needs a sibling so he can become a man

You could adopt if this desire for more children presents itself? Xx

Would that not create resentment to adopted child?

How so?

With the utmost respect, your grandmother is talking absolute bollocks. My 12 year old only child Ds is turning into a fine young man without siblings. I have an only by choice, which I realise is very different from your situation, but honestly, we are all just fine.

What an unkind thing for your Grandmother to say. Lots of people are only siblings and are fine- my cousin is no less of a man from being an only!

Try not to focus on the future too much, enjoy this pregnancy and explore your options when you are ready. You may only want one!

I've had a complicated pregnancy and prior to it I said I wanted 2/3 children. Now I'm 35 weeks pg my consultant has said they'd only advise one further pg so we're going to reassess what we want to do once this baby is here safe and well.

That sounds very difficult, I'm sorry. I thought this thread was going to be written by someone of my age (nearly 40!) on child two or three.

Have you looked into any fertility preserving measures, e.g. egg freezing? I don't know the details of your condition but is it possible (HG aside!) that you'd be able to carry another pregnancy in the future, even if your ovary needs to be removed now? You're so very young and this sounds very serious -- would the NHS offer egg freezing (as for young women with cancer or other serious fertility-impairing illnesses)?

Hoping the rest of this pregnancy goes as well as it can. If I were you I would also be keen to get as many opinions as possible about the treatment necessary once the pregnancy is over. Do they really have to remove your ovary immediately? If breastfeeding your ovaries sort of shut down, don't they, so might that buy some time?

Sorry to be rude but your Grandmother needs to keep her mouth shut! You never know what life has in store for you, I'm more than twice your age and I'm just having my first due to fertility issues-people really need to learn to keep their thoughts to themselves regarding fertility/babies when they have no clue why you're doing what you're doing! Definitely try and find out about egg freezing, you pay to store them by the year then you can do a frozen egg transfer in the future .

Hi all, thank you for sharing and all the informative info.

I suppose freezing my eggs could be an option but my egg quality is rubbish

This was originally a triplet pregnancy. My consultant things the other two didn't make it because my egg quality wasn't great in the first place and was just 'popping them out', so to speak.

I will have to look into it more. I'm so engrossed and focused on ensuring this pregnancy and baby has all it needs that I hasn't really given it much thought since consultant said this

DH and these replies are a reminder it's quite huge.

You could, eventually look into egg donation if you decide you want another child, there are options but only if they are right for you and your DH. Enjoy this pregnancy and see his you feel after and perhaps run those ideas past your consultant?