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Home Life - Relationship Over?

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FlowerPowerBecky · 21/06/2017 19:04

I don't want to bore you all with my life story so I'll just say what I need to vent out...

Me and my partner are currently staying at his parents house whilst we were saving for a mortgage to get our own place.. simple!

Beginning of the year I found out I was pregnant! Complete shock and not planned, I'm now 22 weeks, both our first.

Basically getting a mortgage is proving harder than we thought, and me being on a 0 hour contract, though there is so much work out there even for a 0 hour contract, I have had to try and produce/get hold of people/find lots more evidence than my partner has who has a stable job.

Basically what I'm getting at is that all this has caused numerous arguments, and today really was the worst.

After arguing about the mortgage he got in a huff and said "move back to your parents, bring up the child on your own, you won't find anyone as nice as me, that's obviously what you want" (Quoting my rather awful history of relationships) - baring in mind he's mentioned me moving home before in arguments...

I never once gave him any thoughts that's what I wanted, though on occasions when we argue I do think it would just be easier to move back home.. some 55 miles or so away.

Do you think I'm just being hormonal or do you think that maybe this relationship has broke? He's now sodded off downstairs whilst I'm upstairs thinking what to do... any help or advice would be gratefully excepted! Thank you ❤️

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chloechloe · 21/06/2017 19:41

You poor thing, not what you need when you're pregnant and hormonal!

Could it be that he feels under pressure to provide for you and the baby and the fact that buying your own home is proving difficult is making him stressed and touchy? Having said that, telling you to move back home isn't the way to deal with it - you need to get to the bottom of whether he meant that or just said it in the heat of the moment. I think a lot of men worry about becoming a dad (especially if it's not planned) and desperately feel like they have to provide.

What are your plans for when the baby arrives - do you still intend to live with his parents?

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