I just want to hurry up and get to 12 weeks

[Fifteenyearslater]

I'm 7 weeks and 2 days pregnant. I found out I was pregnant at about 3 weeks and 3 days and since then, the past few weeks and days have gone sooooo slowly!!!!

I've told a few very close friends and my DP of course. But I still haven't told my DD who is 15. Nor have I told my parents or DPs friends and family (he is better at keeping secrets than me).

I feel I should wait until I've had my first scan before telling people. I totally get why people wait until they have the all clear before they spill the beans - but I'm finding that time is going annoyingly slowly.

I'd be interested to hear when others told their friends and family and work. Also whether others are feeling as impatient as I am about getting to 12 weeks.

I remember feeling very impatient between 4 weeks and 12, after that it went VERY quickly to 20 weeks, then slowly again, and since about 26 weeks it's been flying by (I'm 34 now)! Don't overthink it!

I told my partner as soon as I found out at about 4 weeks, then my best friend a week after. We told his family at about 10 weeks as they live far away and we wanted to be able to do it in person, but I would have loved to be able to wait until we had a scan photo too. We told my family at 12, work at 14 and everyone else at 16 (on Facebook, but I only really have close-ish friends on there anyway).

Good luck! Xx

CongratulationsI so remember the feeling Fifteen ... I found out at 4 weeks and getting to 12 weeks or in my case 13 weeks for the first scan seemed to take forever. I had had an early mc 2 years prior so I was constantly checking my knickers I'm approaching my 20 week scan, only a week to go and I've been a lot calmer and the time has gone fairly quick. I only told my dp, mum and a close friend b4 the 12 week scan and I still havent told everyone yet. Good luck op

I know!! I am 8w today had an early scan Friday, but I am so desperate to tell our parents and start nesting etc! 🙈

My sisters were begging for me to get pregnant and knew I was trying so on the day I found out 17 days pregnant, xmas day, I told my sisters and mum in a group text. Then my sister decided to announce it over Christmas dinner. I couldn't believe it. I was not impressed and absolutely mortified. Luckily everything was ok.
With work I had to tell them pretty early as I was signed off for 2 months with hg, I think I was about 3/4 weeks by then.
I read somewhere that it's never too early because, touch wood, even if it's not ok in the long run, it's still real now and worth celebrating.
Congratulations xx

I'm 8+4 and absolutely desperate to get past this first horrible trimester! We had a scan at 6.5 weeks after a bleed and saw a heartbeat but I'm still terrified all the time (had a MMC discovered at 11.5 weeks last year) and I feel SO ill all the time, it's almost unbearable!

We've told our parents and siblings, plus my boss (as I'm having to work from home a lot due to the sickness).

We found out right before Christmas, and didn't get chance to even talk about it until the new year.
So we didn't tell anyone until the new year. We told both sets of parents before the scan though, we wanted to. And we told a couple of close friends. That was it.
It does seem to go very slow though (and we were planning our wedding so had that to distract us, which helped)

With my first pregnancy I told most people quite early, about 6 weeks. I was excited and wanted a support network in case anything went wrong. I'm glad I did because I had a bleed not long after, just a quick phonecall to work without having to explain much and they didn't expect me in. Luckily everything was fine and I now have a very healthy 2 year old!
This time round I did the same, told friends and family etc and then after our first scan let everyone else know

Join support thread on here "February 2018 babies" if I've counted your weeks correctly. Great support for you!

Perhaps join the January one as well.

The risk of miscarriage at 9 weeks is just as low as it is at 12 weeks :) when is your booking in appointment? You might get to hear the heartbeat then.

Hi, I'm nearly 9 weeks with my second. I've told all family and friends. I kept it quiet on my first and I was miserable it went so slow. Last year I had a mmc at 11 weeks and everyone knew then anyway. Unless you are a really private peson I don't see the point in keeping it so quiet. I couldn't have kept quiet about my last miscarriage I was so devastated.

Found out I was pregnant at about 5 weeks as periods were regular and boobs were sore! Due to work issues (chemicals) had to tell Boss right away so I could be less exposed to certain items and he was brilliant, sorted it all very quickly and quietly so no one else was suspicious.
Told my parents around 8-9 weeks as was home for a family event and wouldn't see them again for quite a while and wanted to let them know face to face.
Everybody else was told at 14-16 weeks. Had scan at 13 weeks all good so then just told people as we saw them. DH isn't close to his family so wasn't bothered about telling them early as he knew they wouldn't be involved much.
Wasn't on FB at the time but would probably have put it on about the same 15-16 weeks mark. Bump didn't show till quite late.
Agree first trimester was sooo slow as I was so tired but then it just zipped along until last few weeks which took a bloody eternity!!

Ah, my sympathies! I am 13 weeks (twins) and I basically hadn't really told anyone (except DH and a few close friends) until the weekend. It does seem like a long wait, but it's so lovely when you do get to tell everyone that it kind of cancels it out.

I found out at 3+5 and now 10weeks today. It's been a long 6weeks for sure!! I told partner immediately plus a couple of friends who knew I was TTC. I told my parents at about 7weeks and gradually a few people at work like manager. I tell the people who I would need support from if I miscarried early and everyone else can find out afterwards

Thanks everyone! So glad it isn't just me.

I may well tell my parents before the scan but I think I could probably wait because they don't live close and I most likely won't see them until about late July by which time I will have had my first scan.

@BertieBotts my booking appointment is in exactly two weeks time and I'll be 9 + 3. Perhaps I could ask the midwife to check the heartbeat, even if they don't offer.

Definitely agree about it going slowly! I had my first faint BFP five days before AF was due, and am now 6+1...partner knows, as do our parents - plus my best friend. It's my first, and I wanted to make sure I have support around me whether this pregnancy works or not...

Everyone else will be told after the 12 week scan

Congratulations! The wait is horrible but it sounds as if at least you aren't feeling too
ill. Both times I was holding on for twelve weeks as a magic date when vomiting and nausea would remit -- and then had to wait a bit longer...

If you're worried about telling people in case you have a miscarriage, then I would strongly recommend having an early scan. I couldn't have go through the first trimester without one. As others have said, the risk at 8/9 weeks isn't much higher than at 12 weeks, assuming all looks normal. But I definitely would NOT expect (or ask) to hear heart with Doppler at first appt -- I don't think there is they will find it that early, and then you will worry even more!

It took ages for me to get to 12 weeks so I feel your pain!! Am now 22 and it's flying to the fact that I'm panicking that I have nothing!!

I don't think I would bother asking midwife about heartbeat at booking in. It's way too early for the majority of heart beats to be heard and can just cause anxiety. Didn't even happen for me at 16 weeks as I have an anterior placenta which is very normal. Some midwifes won't even try until 25 weeks x

Omg I can relate.

I'm 10+5 right now and I can't wait to get to 12 weeks and the scan so I can know everything is ok, the time is dragging so badly.

People have told me just to try and enjoy this time, spend quality time with DH and relaxing and try not to worry :)

@owltrousers have you already got a scan appointment? I'm worried that mine will be as late as possible i.e. 14 weeks. I want it as soon as possible! Have just about resisted the temptation to have a private one done.

I found routine you very early. And had absoluteky no ability to keep it quiet. Was ready to tell everyone straight away. Si After a bleed and scare at 6 weeks we had scan that showed all was well, it was then that I told parents in laws siblings and close friends. And like others due to job had to tell boss and colleagues then too.

I only told our parents before the 12 week scan. Then only immediate family after the materniT21 results. But only after the 20 week scan did we not hide it (didn't feel the need to 'announce' it as such). 20-34 weeks flew by. The bit before and the bit after felt like 3 years.

@Fifteenyearslater Yes, mines really early! next Tuesday so I'll be 11+3.

Those first weeks to get to 12 are the longest in pregnancy (except for at the end, when each day feels like a week!) . In the end I booked a private scan for just past 10 weeks as I couldn't bare waiting any longer!

@owltrousers oh I hope mine is as early as yours! How exciting for you.

I'm also incredibly bloated so I'm getting all self conscious about my tummy. Constantly pulling my top down and sucking in! I think I'm actually drawing attention to myself.