Pregnant but afraid to break it to partner

[nimnom1]

I've just discovered I'm pregnant with my third child. My partner didn't want anymore children but I have been lobbying for another. We barely have sex because we are so tired with our first two children but on the odd occasion we don't use contraception. I think he leaves it up to me to work out when I'm fertile and avoid those days, but we have never actually said anything about it. The pregnancy has come at a bad time too: I'm due to start a new job in two works and won't qualify for paid maternity leave. Plus, I'm scared of the horrendous fatigue and sickness while I'm just new. I don't know what I'm asking really. How do I tell my partner and how do I avoid morning sickness and how will I cope with a 5 year old, 2 year old and a newborn?!

Your partner had the chance to prevent this pregnancy he does not want and chose not to. I wouldn't be tiptoeing around his sensibilities.

Your feelings are more important. Do you definitely want to continue the pregnancy?

I think you should tell your partner sooner rather than later as he may well be more upset if he feels you knew and didn't tell him. I think if he was willing to have unprotected sex with you then quite frankly pregnancy is a risk he should have know about, especially with two other children!

In terms of your new job although you might not qualify for maternity pay if you have been working in the past year (not sure of the length of time but the gov.uk website can tell you) you will qualify for maternity allowance which is 39 weeks at £140ish but no six weeks 90% so it's still something

Good luck OP, whatever happens you will get through this

Tell your partner asap then decide what you want to do.
You really need to sort out contraception, it is the responsibility of both of you. If your partner doesn't want any more children then he needs to sort this out, it's not difficult.

To be brutal it is really unfair deliberately get pregnant with an unwanted child that you might both resent. Neglectful and irresponsible not to use contraception ( on both your parts).
Three is perfectly manageable and not much difference to two until they get older. Lying to him is hardly the basis for a sound relationship- and not telling is a lie of omission.

Tell him. You can both discuss your options and feelings then. He may be annoyed but it's not the be all and end all. You both contributed to making the baby, it's both of yours and he needs to be part of the figuring out process. You can support each other.
Hope everything works out for you

Thank you to all the posters who made kind comments. I took your advice and told him tonight. He was philosophical about it. I feel now much better now. Just have to get through the first trimester of vomiting in the toilet at work now 🤢
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