How am I supposed to tell everyone I'm not pregnant anymore?

[Ilovecoleslaw]

Just that really. Would have been 11 weeks today, found out babys heart stopped beating over 3 weeks ago on tuesday, had ERPC weds.
Struggling to talk about it and tell people. I have uni next week and everyone knew I was pregnant, not sure how to go about telling everyone cause they always ask how the pregnancy is when I see them?
Any words of encouragement?

I'm so sorry.
Can you tell one friend and ask them to spread the word, also telling people how you want them to be with you

I'm so sorry.

I miscarried last year a week after a good 12 week scan. Like you, people knew which was difficult to have to deal with.

If it's easier for you, I would think k about sending a text to one or two of them. That way by the time you see them they'll know.

Hope you are doing as well as you can be.

I think, SOMETIMES, facebook can be useful.
When someone very close to me died and I really couldn't face telling everyone why he wouldn't be coming to see us anymore I wrote a post (after his family had announced it on fb, obviously).
That way I didn't have to explain so much in person.
Obviously this isn't going to suit everyone though.

It's so hard isn't it. Each time someone mentioned it, it reminded me all over again, I found it so hard.

Is there any way that you can tell just one or 2 people via text or social media and ask them to spread the word a bit? Or Facebook status?

After the first time I learnt it was easier for my own sanity not to tell anyone until much much later. With my 2 subsequent successful pregnancies we didn't tell anyone at all until around 22/24 weeks.

Speak to one person and ask them to pass the message on.

Thats what i would do, and will do if it comes to it.

Sorry for your loss.

So sorry for your loss, I had the same last year and all of my work colleagues knew, the day before I returned I asked my best friend (she also works with me) to stay overnight with me and push me to go to work in the morning as I couldn't face it. Thankfully she had told everyone beforehand (with my permission of course) which meant everyone helped out however they could, give yourself time it's so difficult to go through xxx

OH crap, sorry to read that.

I imagine I would tell a few close friends & ask them to discretely tell others so that I wouldn't get as many ongoing questions. And otherwise not tell folk unless I had to... Maybe practice a standard vague phrase like "It turns out the fetus didn't grow properly, so that was end of that." Or whatever words feel right to you, and only give as much detail as you want to.

I know it's very British to not want to share sad news... but sometimes it's healthy to. Good for both sides.

Sorry for your loss

I would echo pp and suggest telling a few people and asking them to spread the word so you don't have to. I wouldn't recommend maing a Facebook announcement - I'd want to avoid the constant timehop type reminders in the future.

I lost a pregnancy earlier this year. Admittedly I wasn't as far along as you, but a few people knew and I just said to them "just to let you know, I'm not pregnant anymore". Everyone knew what had happened and I didn't have to go into details, which I found helpful.

I sent a text to people. I couldn't face all the sympathetic looks.