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[marisha28]

Hey, really new to this, so you would have to excuse me. I'm having a bit of a weird one, if i start from beginning might make more sense. I'm 28, late November me and my partner had an accident, I freaked out and ordered morning after pill via online pharmacy, had it on 3rd day. Anyway, round Dec time I've started putting on weight, but wrote it off being Christmas and holidays, my periods had gone by that time, but i thought it was an effect of the pill. I'm not the one to go to doctors ( regret that now), and try to sort myself out with herbal/homeopathic medicine. When weight was keep going up and no show of periods ( I'm in March/ April now) I assumed that I might have hormonal misbalance ( no way I can be pregnant ). I didn't have any signs of pregnancy, none....no sickness, no craving, no pains, nothing but stomach and no periods. I'm a smoker, my job does get a bit to much, so I can smoke a few, I'm not a binge drinker, but do have a glass or 2 of wine or cider after work, I do eat healthy though. Cutting long story short, my mum and my partner more or less forced me into going to doctors, as, bless them, they were worried that I might have some under line problems, and guess what.....im round about 30 weeks pregnant will have my 1st scan next week. I am happy, but worried, as it wasn't planned and if i knew earlier I would of made different health choices. Has anyone had anything similar, as I really want baby to be ok and feel extremely guilty....thank you

I don't have any advice, but didn't want to read and run. What a surprise! Hope you're managing to get ur head round it and getting some support. x

Congratulations! I hope you've got your head around the idea. Many people carry on smoking and drinking throughout known and unknown pregnancies. I'm sure everything will be absolutely fine.

Now you need to order everything quickly! 10 weeks is so soon!

Good luck!

Congratulations!

I am surprised that you didn't take a pregnancy test when you first noticed your periods were missing and you were putting on weight though? That would have been my first thought!

You ordered the pill online? Why? You must know it becomes significantly less effective every hour that passes after sex that you don't take it? Taking it on day 3 haa a very low success rate.

Don't worry about smoking and drinking now, but for these last 10 weeks try and uo your game to make it for it :)

Cheers guys, I know I should of, but I assumed that my periods gone due to a pill and will come back, and when I eventually took the test, it showed up negative. Then I thought that I had something else, pregnancy didn't even cross my mind at that time

Yes, as after a certain time in a pregnancy, you no longer make HCG, which is what a test picks up

My friend found out she was pregnant at around 8 months. They couldn't actually date her accurately as baby was so developed & she'd still been having periods. It was a massive shock to everyone. She'd been drinking, smoking, eating everything she should avoid etc. Baby was born about 6 weeks later, perfectly healthy & there has been no impact from her not knowing she was pregnant.

Practically speaking give up all the stuff you need to avoid now, it's not too late. I'd let work know asap so you can sort out mat leave & pay. You've get a few weeks to buy all the bits you need, a newborn doesn't need much anyway and you can up more once theyre here.

It must be such a shock for you & very difficult to get your head round but you will be fine and so will baby. Good luck!

Thank you, I already told work, just waiting on 1st scan to know exactly where we are. Luckily everyone really supportive, just need to get head in gear and figure out what we need 1st, everything else can come after

Hi. I found out at 30 weeks too! I have PCOS and my pill stopped my periods. Had been on it 6 years with no period in that time.

I was seeing doctors most of last year due to bloating, indigestion, digestive issues, breast issues. They were investigating celiac, I had in this time; blood tests, breast scans, smear test, colposcopy, at least monthly doctors appointments. Not once did I think or was it suggested I was pregnant. I only did a test because of comments whilst on holiday.

In the time I was pregnant I started a stressful job, had a few heavy nights out and dieted like mad. When we found out we had to find somewhere to live and I was due January 8th. Baby looked perfectly fine on scans but there is only so much they can tell and my dates were very estimated. I had regular consultant appointments and growth scans.

I had DD 13th December. She was classed as premature but every doctor that saw her thinks she was over due. She was little even for a 36 weeker and spent some time in NICU.

6 months later she is amazing and we figured everything out. I couldn't imagine our life any other way now. It was hard but don't be too hard on yourself at any point. I still suffer a bit mentally with guilt for not knowing and every happens quickly with very little time to mentally adjust. Try and take time to think about you and not everyone else. I still now get a lot of comments about not knowing and I have to let it not get to me. People don't realise it can be hard to miss out on your pregnancy, be worried about baby and adjust your entire life in a short space of time.

Sorry for the mammoth post. If you ever want to talk to someone who has kind of been there please feel free to PM me. I wish I had some more support from someone who understood. Good luck x

Wow thanks for sharing that unexpected, and hopefully OP will feel a bit more reassured that all will be well! I can't imagine finding out so soon before - but then knowing the whole way just feels like you're waiting forever!

Thank you for sharing, it really does help, lol, do realise that its going to be a bumpy few month from now on, but it will work out, it always does. Will get the scan out of the way and start planning properly, as at the moment its all blurred