Its a Boy

[endlesslove]

I had a scan on Saturday and found out little one is a boy. I am sooooo happy and over the moon.

The problem is, I have never been around baby boys and children. Family all girls and this is my first. What I would like to know is, to those mums to boys, what are boys into, what are boys like, for older mums what kind of relationships do you have with boys.

Seems an odd request, but just want to know what to roughly expect! I know girls are very different. I am not at all worried, just want a fun thread about boys!!!

As a mum to a boy, what is different to a girl?

Its going to be very fun and I cannot wait for his arrival in August.

tbh, I don't know that boys and girls are that different to begin with. Of course there are inate differences between the sexes, but a lot of it is socialisation. My DD and DS are very different people, but not due to their sexes I don't think.

DD is intense, loving, load, energetic, talkative, tanacious, stubborn, bright, funny and fussy.

DS is very affectionate and cuddly, easygoing, happy, gentle, bright, talkative, sensitive.

I don't think these are your stereotypical list of 'boy' vs 'girl' traits!

My DD loves pink, and also diggers and trucks, and DS loves dogs and cars and flowers!

I#ll be interested to see what other with older kids say about this though, as mine are 12 months (DS) and 2.9 years (DD)

Aaah, nice to see a positive thread about boys!! I have just found out am having ds2 (due July) and have to admit to feeling little surprised/down that t wasnt dd (but ONLY because its no.2) - I LOVE my ds sooooo much that I cant imagine how another 1 could be as lovely - but of course he will! Boys are so affectionate and they just adore their mums which is obviously fatastic. My son is not perhaps a 'typical' boy (if such a thing exists) but enjoyplaying houses, making me cups of tea in the kitchen and singing and dancing. It sounds mad but I dont really ever think too much about his gender, just his personality. Good luck with yours!

loud I mean!

I come from an all-girl family, and I am a mother to all boys.
All I can say is, prepare for silliness and noise, for muddy floors and lots of washing, and most importantly, prepare to be snuggled and adored!

Weeell endlesslove (lovely name!) - I'm like you, from a family of girls and only knew about girls, then got pg and had a boy - so I've no idea how it's different to being the mother of a girl, as I haven't experienced that. But - having felt that I had no idea what to expect and wasn't familiar with boys - I am having a whale of a time with him and feel that having a boy is brilliant. Of course everyone is different, and although boys and girls do seem to be very different, all boys aren't the same. But I find with mine (now 21 months) that he is quite a "typical" boy - he loves cars, buses, trains etc., he's very energetic and boisterous, he's incredibly independent-minded and stubborn, and also very lovey-dovey and cuddly, loves to kiss and hug, loves his soft toys and favourite blanket. He is a mummy's boy at the moment and can be quite clingy with me, but also loves larking about, roughhousing and playing with his dad.

I found the willy a bit hard to get used to - it always strikes me as odd to be cleaning and wiping the bits of the opposite sex as opposed to bits like mine! I kind of worry I don't understand what it's like to have them and hope I'm not hurting him or whatever.

One big plus though is that being a boy, i can't think of him as a mini-me, which I think I might have been more prone to do with a girl. I would have imagined I could identify with her and so on when in fact having a biy has brought it home to me that my child is his own person through and through - if that makes sense.

Anyway - congratulations on your lovely boy! I bet you will have a fab time together.

I have 2 ds and one on the way soon... in no particular order - and although some may sound negative - they are all positive attributes to me!

noisy
non-stop running around
fighting
power rangers and pokemon
wonder pets and Maggie
zillions of questions
football
any ball activity tbh
funny
beautiful
caring
daddys boys
techincal/ engineering - can dismantle anything
creative esp with scissors and pencils
leave their mark everywhere
no concept of tidy (dh hasn;t either!)
muddy
hate hair washing, ears being cleaned, nails being cut etc
shut their eyes, fingers in ears when girly adverts come on!

Could go on and on really!

I have to say I wouldn't know what I would do with a girl!

Congratulations btw

Hey endlesslove - I'm the same as baysmum in that I am expecting my second boy in July.

We have a wonderful time wtih DS1 (albeit with the usual smattering of tantrums - he's 2yrs 10months) - he is cuddly, loves kisses, is very affectionate and senstive. But he loves cars / trucks / buses (his favourite) / motorbkies - basically anything that goes. He also likes wondering around with my jewellry on .

From my NCT class there were 3 girls and 4 boys and the general consensus has been that the boys are more cuddly and affectionate with their mums. The girls also seemed to mature quicker, even at this very young age. Obviously this is very general but I'm certainly hoping for a cuddly DS2.

Good luck!

Oh thank you so much for giving me an insight into your boy's personalities. Its so hard, as all I seem to read is that girls to women are the best and that there are lots of women out there who don't want boys.

I am intrigued to find out what boys are like.

It seems that boys are typically very loving which is what I want!!!

I asked the question about what boys are like when they are older, as MIL has said to me that boys don't really want their mum when they have grown up and got married and moved out and that they don't have the relationship like girls do with their mums like going shopping and speaking on the phone for 1/2 hour every day. I thought to myself, is that really true because I would be heartbroken if this was the case! I don't think DH has left his MIL behind so I don't know where she got this from!!!

Do you do arts and crafts and things with boys? Do you cuddle up together and read books? Do boys tend to be more argumentative than girls? Do you do cooking together?

I think the above is probably the case for both girls and boys, but from what you read and hear about, boys just don't have the same wow factor as girls.

The other thing is are boys clothes really that bad? I only seem to hear that girls clothes are cute etc.

Also with toys, are they not as fun because they are not dolls?!

Personally, I think girls and boys are special and bring their own different traits into the world.

xx

They are just wonderful

how lovely!
I'm a mum to 2 boys and 1 girl. The boys are so different, the oldest (5) likes pink (he is learning to be an individual and that makes me proud), thomas the tank engine, reading and colouring. DS2 (4) likes superheros, play fighting and guns (much to my horror!) My girl is so girly, loves fairies and ballet (shes 2.4) but keeps up with the boys and plays power rangers with them! She is by far the most determined and wilful. DS2 is relaxed and easy going. DS1 is more sensitive. Am expecting DD2 in June, so have no idea what to expect from her! As well as gender, it seems to me that position in the family plays a part in how they are. A lot of friends say their first born boys are sensitive and creative.

Hello endlesslove - lots of good advice on here! I had two girls first, then a boy - and was a bit concerned about how I would handle it as (like you) I had no experience of boys (except for my nephew who was a horror on wheels - however I now put that down to his upbringing rather than his gender!)

I would second the poster who said that at first the sex doesn't really have an impact - for the first year of their life your son will be your baby first and foremost, and a boy second . Lots of people will try to tell you that he cries/smiles/gurgles etc "because he is a boy" but I think that's a load of rubbish meself . It's only as they get older that their personality begins to shine through.

My ds is now 19 months and is very different to his sisters - but they in turn are very different from (to?) each other so I guess some is gender but more is personality. I certainly find the affection thing to be true (and I was very sceptical about that) - ds would happily sit on my knee and cuddle me all day!

Congratulations and don't worry - whatever you do with him, he will be your child and that is the best bit about it

you are right, they do bring their own special traits. I have a real mummy's boy in DS1, he always says things like 'i don't ever want to go away from you' (which is good, because the older they get, the tighter I pull on those apron strings), DS2 smothers me with kisses and wrestles his cuddles. DD offers me her cheek when she wants a kiss!!!

Its so exciting! I was in two minds about finding out the sex but DH really wanted too. I am so so glad I found out as I just simply cannot wait. It will be fun having a boy around!

Hmm yes re the clothes - most boys clothes these days seem to be mud-coloured, camouflage, or sport slogans like "I'm a little horror" . Mind you, if you don't want to dress your little girl in pink or lilac, your choices are equally limited IMO! I get most of my clothes from ebay or Mumsnet - the things from a few years ago tend to be more brightly coloured and nicer. Ds is today sporting a red and cream top (ebay - Next originally) and a smashing pair of red/navy/cream striped corduroy dungarees (MN - thanks tortoise!) and generally wears lots of bright colours - but be prepared to hunt around for them!

The only thing I don't like is people make assumptions about what they play with - someone gave my two light sabres for christmas, or guns - infact any weapon. I really don't want to encourage fighting. That upsets me a bit. I don't like seeing them with weapons pretending to hurt each other (or me).

We do cooking, reading, sewing, gardening and stuff like that all the time. A prime example of boys/girls:

went round to friends who have one girl - they watched some Barbie princess video quite happily - we get into car to go and ds1 (age 5) says 'Mummy - you won't tell anyone I watched a Barbie film, will you?' aaaahhhhh bless him!

We don't have any guns or weapons - a pirate sword but they're not really into it - why would you be when you can hit eachother with cars, sticks, lego, books, pencils, meccano, golf clubs, power ranger figures ... Nobody has ever given us one either - I do find toy guns really unsettling I have to say and would hide it if they got given one! (mean mummy!)

yes, funny how these things have a habit of disappearing!

Why do people give things like that?

Wow congratulaitons endlesslove. I have 4 boys ages 12,11 nearly 3 and 4 months.
Miaou I know what you mean about the sort of toys people automaticaly think boys play with. My ds3 has a baby doll. My neighbour bought it for him when I was expecting ds4 and my Dad made the most stupid comments. He also has a toy washing machine and spends ages putting his socks and things in it to wash
As for older boys they are so loving. My eldest is all for his Dad and is his Dads image where as my ds2 is a 'Mummys boy'.
They are always ready for a cuddle though and they all get on brilliantly. I think the older boys had a whole different respect for me when I was pregnant too. They suddenly became very attentive and independant.
Never had experience of looking after girls except my niece (whos the only granddaughter)from what my sister tells me,she has 2 boys and a girl, she said shed have the boys all over again!!
Wish you all the best with your son
Have you thought of any names yet or is it too early?

congratulations endlesslove. I would say that boys are great as I have one! But this is my experience of having a boy, who is five this year:

He is the love of my life.
He wants and needs me and has never found it easy to separate from me.
He sometimes says the most profoundly loving things just out of the blue.
He adores rough play and being thrown around by his dad.
Despite a no-gun or weapon household, ds found for himself that boys sometimes like to hit, punch, use anything they can lay their hands on as swords/weapons
He simply HAS to run and jump and go to the park!
He loves to cook, specialising in sponge cake
He loves to garden, and is really good at digging and weeding
He loves being read to and looking at books
He loves being cuddled
He is straightforward
He is interested in what HE is doing and not too concerned about others (when he started school we noticed a huge difference between the boys, who got on with their own thing, and the girls, who were very interested in letting other kids (and adults!) know the rules, in telling others how to do things, in looking at what others were doing....)
He (so far, thank goodness) has no concept of boy's or girl's toys, or films, or being 'cissy' or what he should or shouldn't do because he is a boy. Though having said that his interests are typically boyish!

It's WONDERFUL, enjoy it!

i have a daughter and am pregnant with a boy due tommorow
im nervous about having a boy as im used to girls in family but i think it will come naturally.
god luck hun.

Oh your message sunnysideup gave me a tear!!!

Name will probably be Ellis.

thanks endlesslove.

I certainly feel so, so lucky to have had my glorious boy.