37 weeks and really grumpy about unwanted 'advice' and comments!

[weloveearlysleeptime]

I thought id be left alone considering this is DC2. But no!

Thot i was 'smart' by pushing back my due date by 2 weeks. But no!

The comments have started to pour in. 'Due early July? Oh that means anytime now could be early!" And.....so???? So what if baby is early ??(even if ive lied about my due date and actually baby is due in next 2 weeks!).

And Ive already been asked 'are u breastfeeding?" Yes i am!! And sod it if relative in qn didnt because she 'didnt want 2 feel like a cow' and 'u know how much they feed with formula how r u supposed to know with bf'.

Arrrrrgggghhh!!! Why wont people leave me alone! Then there is the 'whats wrong with using a dummy!" brigade who insist 'babies who dont use dummies get wind'.

How on earth do i stay calm?

Dont get me wrong. Am not anti formula nor anti dummies. But for crying out loud respect my choices!! And these are my relatives!

I'm nowhere near as far along and this is my first (17 weeks now) but I can sympathise. My mother especially is driving me insane already! On top of unwanted advise and horror stories I've basically also been told I've put on weight on my neck/chest area which isn't even true?? Wtf is it with people thinking a pregnant womans body/choices are up for discussion?? Bumps too big... bumps too small... it's too early to start shopping... I should be doing it already... should I really be dying my hair? And why am I planning on working until 2 weeks before (cushy office job ten minutes from home)
Honestly if I had given out so much unwanted advice to friends or relatives about their lives I swear they wouldn't be talking to me now!

I know! Its infuriating!! And im trying to remain calm as i intend to hypnobirth but all the comments are so grating. I try hard 2 shut them out but they keep popping up on my mind and irritating me further ugh.

Same. I wouldn't normally dwell but I have been. Worse part is if you say something you get accused of being hormonal!
My Mom told my sister about my reaction to her fat neck comment and said it was probably just my hormones!! Like I would take it so well if someone said that to me not pregnant??

I hear you (36 weeks here) opinions are like arse holes, everybody has one but my god I don't want to see or hear them.

Just ignore them and say "that's nice" then growl at them lol

Sometimes they dont get the hint? Like the breastfeeding thing....keep going on and on jeez about how formula is 'better'.

And then there is the 'i gave my kids farleys rusks at 3 months and they slept thru the night and they turned out just fine" .

I feel like taking a fork and stabbing my eyes!!

I had that old chestnut 'put whiskey in baby's bottle if they won't sleep' from my monster in law. Which is exactly why she won't be asked to babysit.

The other one that gets me is 'you're massive!' (37 weeks here too). Gee - thanks for telling me. I've not seen my feet for 4 months and obviously don't own a mirror so I'm glad people think to tell me 😡😡😡

But have you tried a ginger biscuit?

@weloveearlysleeptime it's all coming back to me now, the old "oooh never did me/my dd/my cat's vets podiatrists kid any harm" ohhh but they're such a big baby! Oh you're not making enough. Rod for your own back. Need to be firm with them!

May go into hiding till this one turns five

Yes the ginger biscuit thing! I didn't hold back when it was said to me in 1st trimester. I actually snapped at someone.

Am I to assume the ginger biscuit thing is in relation to morning sickness?? I almost miss the days when nobody but me and DH knew...!!

Monster in law 😂 oh I know that feeling! I'm only 16 weeks but already I'm starting to get comments of family and the monster in Law! Got told that I should basically stay on the house and not do anything until the baby is born because I went to a festival (one day might I add!) and my oh watched me like a hawk the whole time. People are so rude!

I'm on my 5th & I still get unwanted advice & comments. I try not to pay any attention but it's getting harder the further on I get (30+3). My grandmother is obsessed with how I'm 'coping'? Drives me bloody mad particularly because according to her I should have been sterilised

@jessiecat27 Exactly! I'm 35 weeks with a toddler. It feels like I'm some sort of zoo exhibit- it must be very entertaining to watch me try and control DS whilst waddling like a whale. And then there's the "you shouldn't be picking him up" WHAT DO YOU THINK I ENJOY IT RIGHT NOW????!!! Rant over. I feel better