When can I get excited?

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I am currently 18 weeks pregnant and due to three previous miscarriages am really anxious most of the time. I have a little boy who was premature and due to his surprise arrival we had absolutely nothing ready.

I want to get excited about this pregnancy and talk about it more and start organising myself but am worried something will go wrong.

At what point did you start buying things? How did you stop the anxiety? Thanks!

I don't think you need persmission to get excited

Sorry to hear of your losses. It's understandable that you're worried. This is my first pregnancy and (aside from HG) all has gone smoothly but I've still be a total stresshead. I've started to feel a lot better after the 20 week scan was over. I've still only bought a few baby grows and probably won't bother with the big purchases till around 30 weeks. Other people have ordered their nursery furniture by 12 weeks and that's fine too.

I think it's a personal thing. You can either make an effort to adopt a positive mental attitude, and decide that from today you are going to be excited and start preparing - or you can accept that you can't help worrying and wait for it to start subsiding naturally. Either approach is reasonable.

I do know of someone who had repeated miscarriages and decided that nothing they did would make a difference, so would enjoy their pregnancy day by day regardless. Her manta was "today I am pregnant". Hope you manage to start enjoying yourself soon.

Thanks for your reply- I know I should try to embrace it and be positive! I feel I have to hold myself back

I can totally relate to how your feeling. After two miscarriages found my third pregnancy very difficult at first due to anxiety. so you are not alone.
currently 25 weeks and I do still worry as o think everyone does but I have to say the 20 week scan made such a difference for me just to know everything was still going ok and finding out the gender really helped reduce the anxiety and make baby feel like a real baby rather just something I was trying so hard to not get connected too. planning on having a private scan in a few weeks to increase that excitement and feeling of bonding. hope everything goes well and that excitement starts to build soon for you too.