Petrified of having misscarriage :(

[Ttc321]

Hi all
I am pregnant at last after years of trying as I have PCOS.
Basically I am totally scared/paranoid and driving myself mad because I'm scared that I'll either have a misscarriage or when I get to my 13 week scan the baby isn't going to be alive.
I know I shouldn't stress but I have been ever since I started bleeding really heavy at 5 weeks pregnant - I had an u/s and had blood on top of my sac , went again 2 weeks later at 7.5 weeks and it was gone and she said she seen the baby's heart flickering on screen. Fast forward to now I'm 10 weeks 5 days and literally petrified of losing this baby as I have built all of my hopes and dreams on it, everyone knows & I have gotten so so so excited even looking at baby things already.
Advice plz?

I'm sorry to say but there isn't much you can do except be positive and follow normal pregnancy advice. It's hard and worrying but all the worrying in the world won't make any difference. Sorry, not much help I know.

No advise but I can offer my story and a hug?

My mother and her sister both suffered multiple miscarriages, I knew this from a young age and so when I fell pregnant I was terrified, I was a wreck, I couldn't work properly, I would burst into tears at everything and I was grinding my teeth. I couldn't be happy with being pregnant as I was so scared it was going to go wrong and would snap at friends who asked me if I was excited or if I'd done any shopping yet.

DS arrived and was perfect, I'm now pregnant with the next one and so much more relaxed this time, I still have the odd freak but so much better.

What I found that helped in no.1 was a chart that gave me the statistical risk week by week, I'm an analytical person and factual numbers reassured me as they fell week by week.

I decided not to have private scans or try and use a doppler.

As a heart beat was seen at 7.5 then statistically your risk is already lower. Do you have a date for your next scan? It's a case of counting down the days until the scan.

But I know how you feel and it's understandable but remember statistically you are already ahead.

xxx

I totally get it. We've been ttc for almost 7 yrs, have had 5 MC. Have just last week discovered I'm pregnant again. I'm analysing every twitch and am petrified every time I go to the loo in case I see blood.
I can't say anything to make it easier for you, just let you know that you're not alone and to just take each day as it comes.
Have you had another scan since you saw the heartbeat at 7.5weeks? Xx

No I haven't.. my next scan is at 13 weeks (in 2 weeks and 3 days) and I'm counting down every second.

Thanks for your words xx

Everything crossed for you xx