Lack of respect about choice of food for baby

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Hi all,

Today i had my baby shower and it was truely lovely but this evening i had some family friends visit. They asked abt if i would bring my baby up veggie (i am/hubby not) we said we'd all eat the same at home, when he's old enough, as this is what we currently do... they kept arguing it was not better for baby/we were fircing our views on him/stopping family sharing their diet with him... it got quite tense and i felt upset. Not once did i say meat eating is wrong ir harmful just not my choicem i walked off as was getting emotional (34 weeks) then they left without an apology or bye as thry feel i upset them!
The problem is, we've been family friends for 28 years. I feel hurt and betrayed by them but i also dnt wanna lose them. My mum is upset too as v.close to them... what do we do?

They are out of order. We are more or less the same, I'm 100% veggie and she will only eat meat if it is other going to go to waste at work. I had so many negative comments from grandparents ( who weren't well informed) and my parents who frankly should know better. Stand your ground, family friends don't get a say in how you choose to feed your child! I feel much more confident now DD is 20 months and totally thriving. Bf for 13 months and she grew exactly on her growth curve and is on the 98th percentile for height. All the family that go "oo but how are you getting enough protein" or "what about your iron levels" I can now point them in the direction of a) the child I grew from scratch and b) my pregnancy blood tests that show its bang in the middle of the range.

There's so much scare mongering over being vegetarian it's ridiculous. But it's more ridiculous that they are badgering you at your own baby shower! I like the suggestion of hormonal comments made above.

By "she" I meant to say dh! Autocorrect fail

How ridiculous.

Surely how you feed your baby is up to you and dh. As long as you agree it's fine. The bigger problem would be if baby wasn't getting fed.

Dh and I eat veggie most days (maybe only eating meat once a week or so) when baby arrives in sept and once it's on solid food it will (hopefully) eat as we do.

Yes it makes me feel like they want me to justify my choices. I am currently anemic but so are several of my meat eating friends and i have upped my iron intake plus supplements. I dnt see the non veggies having to excuse the fact they have low iron. Its not a test you have to pass...

Don't tell people you are anaemic. It just gives them more fuel. My DS1 survived on sausages for the longest time as his only source of protein, he just refused any other type of meat. I could get beans into him as well. So actually lots of small children refuse meat anyway. Ds2 is defo a meat eater 😂 he was eating beef jerky with only 4 teeth. They are what they are. People are so interested in your business. I think youve got the idea from this thread though, you were not in the wrong. I'd move on and forget about them/their behaviour. I've had lots of family issues in the past and in the end I just smile and get in with things. But you can always remember their stance and make sure never to let them bother in that way again.

Very true. Thanks. I'll try and move o now.