Navy wife Pregnant and terrified

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Hi

I don't know if anyone has any words of wisdom or comfort to offer but I could certainly do wit some!

I am almost 6 weeks pregnant and absolutely terrified. I'm quite an anxious person anyway and i was very anxious about getting engaged, but right now I have no idea if the faint nausea I'm feeling is because I'm scared of of my mind or the pregnancy!

I'm terrified of having the baby, being a parent, having another mouth to feed , the effect it will have on my marriage. And just to complicate things my hubby is deploying for 6 months in July and hS due date is also the baby's . We wanted to me to be pregnant while he was away whic didn't have us a huge window for trying but I didn't expect it to work first time. He was lovely when I told him how scared I how I was but pointed out that I had signed off on the plan... which is true. But I don't have anyone I could ask to be my birth partner... how am I going to get to the hospital? I'll hav o go to all the appointments and classes alone and then when hubby gets back we've got to deal with post deployment and a new baby.

I also hate having to lie to everyone though I'm not ready to tell anyone.

Sorry about this rant but have literally nowhere else to put this :(

Claire

Where are you based?

My (adult) Daughter was in the same position as you, she might have some tips, I can ask her if you like? There is usually a huge and very strong support network with the Navy WAGS.

Hi I'm bristol based...any tips would be gratefully appreciate!!

Not much advise or tips to add I'm afraid, but one thing... I've gone to all of my appointments, classes and most scans without my husband due to various things. It's actually been totally fine. I think he made it to one scan at the beginning.

Hopefully others with more help will be along soon. Take a deep breath, you'll make it through.

Do you live on the base? Do you know any other wives? Can you talk to someone in welfare to find out what will happen about getting dh home when the baby is born? Will he get any r n r in his deployment? (Dh was raf and would have done), you might be able to plan that around your due date.
Dh missed a lot of appointments and scans as he could never get time off work. Are you able to talk to your neighbours, one of them might turn out to be a really good friend and if you live on a base will probably know how you are feeling as they will have done it themselves. Any coffee mornings on camp you can go to or a wives group you could attend to meet a couple of people? You don't have to tell them you are pg, just that you want to meet people.