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Jealous sister

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user1494812234 · 17/05/2017 03:38

Had anybody else had to deal with a jealous older sister who doesn't have children that is so obviously jealous that her younger sister is before her!?
So this is the first boy and the first grandchild in our family..I guess I kind of get it but surely it's not normal to be so unkind and unsupportive..
I can see it actually pains her to be around me and talk about my son! I have a month left and my entire pregnancy she's been very immature and very unsupportive.
I fell out with my parents due to the fact I was pregnant and I can tell you absolutely loving having them to herself, but as the baby is nearing (next month) she's getting bitter and bitter! Obviously because everything will be fine with me and my parents when my sons here and the attention will be on my family!
It just makes me so angry..I really don't want her to have much to do with my son at all as she's been so rude and immature throughout my pregnancy!😤

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PollytheDolly · 17/05/2017 05:01

Why did you fall out with your parents?

Jealousy is a terrible thing. Why hasn't she had children yet?

Congratulations on your pregnancy by the way. Smile

Maggy74653 · 17/05/2017 06:12

Could she be struggling to get pregnant or have suffered miscarriages in the past? There could be more to it than jealousy of you doing it first.

Herbie22 · 17/05/2017 07:19

How old are you? This reads as if it was written by someone very young.

Squishedstrawberry4 · 17/05/2017 08:20

What happened with your parents

UserThenLotsOfNumbers · 17/05/2017 08:35

Sorry op but you sound very immature.

purpleallover · 17/05/2017 08:35

I have similar in that I have an older sister that I know desperately wants children, however she has dealt with my pregnancy well and has been keen to be involved and has been so lovely about it.
I do think it must be very difficult for your sister in this situation, though it's a shame she hasn't been able to get to a point where she is happy for you. It might change once the baby comes!
How is your relationship with her usually? Are you close? Could you have an honest conversation with her about it to clear the air, acknowledge that you can understand why it's hard for her but that you miss being able to talk to her about these things and would really appreciate her support and involvement in your babies life.

jinglebellmel · 17/05/2017 09:01

Congratulations on your pregnancy. This sounds difficult for your, but honestly you come across as a little immature and Insensetive here. Have you considered any of the many reasons she maybe finding your pregnancy hard? If you express the attuitude that all of the attention will be on you once your son is here then I'm not surprised she's a bit off! Maybe have a chat with her to see if she's okay and let her know you'd appreciate her support at the moment.

Zaberwocky · 17/05/2017 09:17

Did you ever wonder that the reason she's behaving like this could be her way of coping? And have you directly spoken to her about your feelings about her behaviour? You seem to be making huge assumptions about her attitude!

As others have said, she could be struggling with fertility issues, have experienced a miscarriage, have had a termination, may just not like children, etc. Without wanting to be harsh, this isn't likely to be all about you. Your pregnancy is most likely a trigger for something else.

Talk to her. You have no idea what's going on in her head, reach out to her.

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