Abortion but still want more children

[LuLu123456]

I am currently 5/6 weeks pregnant and I am booked in for a termination tomorrow. I feel like the timing for me to have a baby isn't right and I wasn't wanting to get pregnant ( condom split then took morning after pill which didn't work)
When taking the pregnancy test I was hoping I wasn't pregnant and was upset when I found out I was. My partner doesn't want another child (we have twins already) but has said he didn't want the twins originally but 'came round to the idea' and now couldn't imagine life with out them and that he doesn't want me to go through with it if it's not what I want.
I feel as if I don't want this baby but I do want another in the future even possibly next year. Am I being selfish? I keep questioning myself how can I want another baby next year but not now and I'm so confused as to weather I do actually want a termination or not?

Of course it's ok, timing is important and you already know how hard parenting is so you do what is right for you at the right time.

There isn't a right or wrong reason to have a termination, so do whatever you think is best for your situation. This is a big decision though, and one that shouldn't be rushed, so perhaps it would be better to take a little while longer to think about it?

It is completely your decision op, and any reason for wanting to terminate is valid to the individual.

I would just worry that you may come to regret if you only want to wait a year before having another baby.

Baby wouldn't be here until nearly next year anyway

I strongly believe all women should be able to terminate for whatever reason they choose (instead of all this 'mental health' excuse having to bend the law to be able to terminate as we have at the moment). It's your body and your life - you should do as you feel is right and don't feel guilty just because society seems to have this believe that it is okay to have an abortion, as long as you feel guilty about it and never forget it. I'll get off my soapbox now, sorry...

That said - I've seen lots of women wait for the 'right time' and eventually have the opportunity pass them by altogether. There is never a perfect time to have a baby, there's always something that isn't ideal. But I'm sure you will take that into account in making your decision - for example if you are 45 and planning to try again in a year or two it may sway things. Because you are an adult and you can judge when it is best for you to have your family.

Good luck, OP. Hope all goes well whatever you decide to do.

I was in a very similar situation 18 months ago, accidental pregnancy at absolutely the wrong time. Baby would have been due on our wedding day! As well as that, my OH was still working away during the week and financially we just weren't ready.

It was a horrible decision to have to make but we had the termination and I didn't and still don't regret it. 12 months later we were ready to try for a baby, I had a miscarriage early on and I will admit I thought it was karma for terminating a year before. This, of course is complete and utter nonsense!

I am pregnant again now and due later this year, so please remember this is your decision to make and if you're not ready for another baby just yet, then do what's right for you. There is no reason why you wouldn't be able to to conceive again in a year or so.

Totally your decision OP and only you can decide what is right. There is no scientific evidence that suggests women who have a termination go onto have issues conceiving further children.

Also, I hope it all went ok today and you're not feeling too rotten.

How did today go? Hope you're ok OP