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Needing your support so much- ttc and losing my faith

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AllkaSalsa · 08/05/2017 19:56

Ten years ago I had chlamydia for 9 months with no symptoms until the 9th month: awful back pain and burning wee. It was diagnosed as a uti initially and treated as such which got rid of symptoms. A couple of weeks later the cat came out of the bag and bf admitted he had cheated and been in a 2nd relationship for 9 months. I had a full sti screening after (obvs split up) and tests revealed chlamydia. Because I no longer had symptoms there was no mention of PID, but now ttc and reading up on fertility I fear that the infection had in fact progressed and that's what my symptoms were.

We have been ttc for 10 months with no luck. I am really frightened that my fertility has been ruined and my dreams of a family drastically altered. My OH is supportive and knows everything, but I fear that facing the reality of infertility would destroy everything we have. I worry my family would be disgusted with me. I feel so incredibly low.

I really need to hear from anyone who has suffered from a chlamydia infection or PID and conceived, whether that be through post on here or private message. I know we don't always want to share online things that are embarrassing. I just hope someone out there can help to build my confidence and reassure me.

We will have the tests done at 12 month, and I do know I ovulate through tracking temping and blood testing earlier for a separate issue that has since resolved. Really hoping you can help xx

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jinglebellmel · 08/05/2017 20:10

I've no experience sorry, but just wanted to say sorry you're going through a shit time and feeling so low. Maybe head to your GP now and explain the situation rather than waiting 2 months, they might be willing to start testing earlier given the circumstances. It can be totally normal to take this long to conceive though, so there's every chance it isn't what you think - I can understand it's impossible not to fixate on it as a possibility though. Please don't feel any shame in all this, you've done nothing wrong at all x

AllkaSalsa · 08/05/2017 20:25

Thanks for reply.

I know that I may be overreacting- honestly I found! It really is an obsessional fear. Can't shift it!

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TwinkleStars15 · 08/05/2017 21:21

This was me a few years ago! I also had it, three times in fact, once for a year without knowing. Considering I've only slept with 5 people in my life, 3 had it, so don't feel bad about it. I also read lots about PID and got myself all worked up, convinced myself for ages it had blocked my tubes etc. Turned out it was DH who had the issue. Anyway, years later, and a new relationship, I conceived straight away. Honestly, so many people have it at some point in their lives, it's so prevalent, that if everyone who got it couldn't conceive that'd be ridiculous.

I totally get your worries, when your ttc everything goes through your mind but it really is very unlikely.

How old are you? Can you pop to the GP for a chat?

Deranger01 · 08/05/2017 21:29

it took us 2 years and clomid to have our first dc, we never got a reason for the infertility - i thought it would never, ever happen for us and remember feeling totally desperate. You're at the start of this journey, have courage, I'd get myself to the GP now and see what they say, at least get the first step done. DC2 was a total surprise accident, there are 4 years between them.

AllkaSalsa · 08/05/2017 22:32

Thanks for replies

I am really grateful for responses! I think I might give it two more cycles to make it a full year and then go to the doctors.
Agree so many ppl statistically have it that odds are in my favour.
If it had been symptomless I think I'd worry less, but it was so long ago I can't really act rationally or pragmatically!

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