Miserable all the time

[Firstpotato]

13 weeks pregnant, not planned. Spent the first 3 weeks after finding out crying. Recently had a scan and still don't know if I'm coming or going. My partner has 2 kids from a previous relationship and one of them is an absolute nightmare. That was reason enough for me to now want us to have any. We talked about the options but I don't think I could have mentally coped with an abortion. We told his kids at the weekend and the response was "are you joking? this is a joke right". We told his mum after and the response was "oh you'll have another little insert his other kids names here running around. I am hating this so far. We wont have another of anyone, we will have a whole new person! Apparently I overreacted with that part. I don't know if I should see my GP as I just feel so down about this all the time. I wanted to be in a better financial situation before committing to a child and I worry all the time that they wont be getting the best start in life. His mum wants a copy of the scan so that she can send a copy to family I have never met who live abroad! I feel overwhelmed.

Pregnancy is pretty overwhelming, especially if it's come as a shock. I'd certainly go and have a chat with your go about how you're feeling. Hormones do funny things to us all. Sending hugs.

I'm not surprised you're feeling down, given the reactions you've had so far and the circumstances (unplanned, you don't feel ready, etc).

Yes, go and see your GP - it's always best for your GP and MW to be in the loop with how you're feeling and your home circumstances, but also accept that your feelings are normal. Even a wanted pregnancy can be a bit of a headfuck, and when you hadn't been trying and no one else seems very enthusiastic it can really dampen any excitement you may otherwise have had. You're right though - you won't have another X, you'll have a brand new baby all your own, who is quite likely to be very different to his/her half-siblings. Don't let other's negativity get your down. And congratulations!

ugh bad grammar - sorry!

others' negativity get YOU down

Thank you very much. GP and MW it is! I must be unbearable to live with at the moment. My partner is happy and I'm jealous of him. He's being as supportive as possible even apologising for arguments that he hasn't started. I just want to crack on and make the most out of this. GP and MW seems to be the best place to start. Just afraid the GP will put me on antidepressants.

If you don't want to go on ADs, say so. Would you prefer to talk to someone instead? Would your caregivers just knowing what is going on make you feel better? If you have some idea what will help you then share it with them. I hope they're able to give you some help and support.

Think I'd be happy to talk to someone. It's made a difference talking to family and close friends. I don't know how to calm the anxiety though so I'm hoping GP will have some advice for that. Not sleeping doesn't help.