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user1494251545 · 08/05/2017 15:26

Hey ladies,
So recently I found out I'm pregnant with my first child, was such a shock but I'm happy! My partner wasn't so happy at first as he kept saying that he's not ready to be a dad and that he's not financially stable (bearing in mind he's 21 and I'm turning 21, this month in fact) but thankfully he's started warming up to the idea and is actually really supportive, he keeps saying that his mum isn't going to be happy and his family won't be happy about it as we're both so young and have our lives ahead of us, I've told him that I don't believe in abortion in my eyes so there is no way I will be aborting my little blessing.

The main thing I'm worrying about is miscarriage as there is a history of it in my family, my mum's had quite a few miscarriages and my sister has had 2 not that long ago, I'm so so scared that the same is going to happen to me, I'm only 5weeks 6 days today so anything can happen, I'm really trying not to stress about it as I know it can be worse but honestly it's the main thing I think about, I've had cramping since before I found out but it's honestly nothing painful just feels like very very minor period cramps most of the time it's barely noticeable.

I'm scared something is going to happen as the only symptoms I have at the moment are very sore breasts and obviously a missed period, I just want to get more symptoms so It feels more real to me and I can stop worrying so much!

Also another thing I'm worried about is my job, as I work as a customer service in a busy bakery it includes a hell of a lot of lifting such as doing the dishes, taking the trays downstairs and bringing them upstairs and also opening and closing as we have to clean the shop ourselves, in the evenings having to bring lots of plastic crates upstairs, lifting the tops of the sofas off to hoover, put the heavy rubbish bags out and lifting the mop bucket up the stairs etc and opening I have to carry the trays of breads to put them on display, my boss is also kind of moody so I'm worried about telling her as she isn't the easiest and understanding person to talk to, I've only been at this job for just under 6 months aswell, I'm not on my probation anymore but worried she will cut my hours down when I tell her I'm pregnant.

Sorry this post has been long but any comments will be greatly appreciated.

Michelle Smilexx

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owltrousers · 08/05/2017 16:03

Hi Michelle!

First of all congrats!

Secondly, I know its ever so easy to get worried. I'm 5w+2 at the moment and I'm noticing every little twinge. Also got similar cramps like little dull aches more annoying that painful. You have to keep a positive frame of mind and just keep reminding yourself that there is a far greater change of everything going right than anything going wrong.

As for your job, there are very strict laws regarding pregnancy and work and I believe they would not be allowed to cut your hours because you are pregnant - at least not from a pay stance. You should tell them as soon as you feel comfortable though as they may need to adjust the tasks you do or take some jobs off your hands - you can't be overdoing it.

user1494251545 · 08/05/2017 17:01

Thanks owltrousers! Congratulations too!

Unfortunately I'm worrying even more now as I have just been to the toilet and have seen that I have started to bleed, in two minds wether to go to the hospital to get it checked as the history my family has! It's light pink and not sure if it's light or heavy at the moment as I'm scared to go back to the bathroom and check, I've put a pad on to see if there is quite a bit there or not the next time I go to the toilet! I'm overthinking and worrying about everything right about now, I'm so scared 😢😢😢

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rabbitstail · 08/05/2017 17:23

Sorry to hear you've seen some blood user, can you call your gp and get them to call you back for a chat? Our local drs will do that if your worried about something. It could just be spotting which can be a normal part of early pregnancy. Try not too worry but best get it checked out.

Good luck x

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