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I'm 32 weeks pregnant and today had lower back pain and tightenings in my tummy,hubby was meant to be going out but cancelled as he felt bad leaving me...until I said just go out theres nothing you can do for me anyway,no sooner had I said that he was dressed and out the door,i don't know if its hormones but ive been sat in tears since he left,hes not even text me to see how I am and now I'm thinking things like hes going to cheat on me,he never has before and hes not like that but my mind is driving me mad and I just feel so upset

Are you always like this?

I don't want him to come home,i suppose I didn't really want him to go out,i shouldn't have told him to go,im just winding myself up more and more thinking about it,hes gonna come home drunk and wake me up then keep me awake snoring and that will piss me off even more

no not always like this I know I sound crazy

Not crazy, just a bit tiresome. It wont be doing you or the baby any favours tying yourself up in unecessary knots like this.

I still would have thought he would have rang or text whilst on the train to see what 111 said when they rang me back,its like he don't give a fuck

Another thing I have learned over the years is not to get pissed off with people until they've actually done something wrong.

If he comes in hammered and loud, shout at him then. Why waste time and energy feeling angry for no good reason?

I know its not doing me or baby any good I just cant distract myself I just keep getting annoyed

I know he will come In hammered and loud,i asked what time he will be home as he didn't want to take his keys so I have got to stay up for him and he said about 1 or 2 most pubs shut at 11 so I don't know why so late which is making my mind go off on one again

ive just tried calling and hes not answering,this is upsetting me even more,if id gone out knowing my hubby wasn't well id check my phone or text to make sure he was ok,i could be in labour for all he knows

Aww bless you, I think you're being irrational and now you've got yourself all wound up. Not trying to be harsh at all, I'm sure most of us have got ourselves in to a state when we've expected our husbands to be mind readers and they're not, I know I have! And you obviously feel vulnerable. You wanted to be cool and said no you go I'll be fine and you wanted him to say no I want to stay here and look after you! They don't do that! You should just go to bed, wake up and let him in when he gets home and tell him in the morning you got a bit upset and wished you never told him to go out. And most places have somewhere that opens later than the pubs so I wouldn't jump to cheating conclusions unless he has a track record of that. Hope you're ok. x

I would have insisted he took keys rather than disturb me later. It really is silly to be winding yourself up about a load of hypothetical problems. You need to start communicating honestly rather than playing silly games that are backfiring and making you sad.

I know it's a bit late now but it's your hormones! I had a dream my OH left me and woke up in tears! Just tell him today you were upset because you were worried about what had happened earlier in the night, just drop a subtle hint! If he goes out again just ask him to keep his phone on loud for your own piece of mind in case you need him! I've found watching Disney films or something similar (not stressful) helps and try and relax when you go to bed. Don't blame yourself for your hormones and certainly don't listen to the rude comments on here. Every pregnancy is different!