Last minute panic, anyone?

[JonSnowsWhore]

Anyone else in need of getting their last minute panics out in the open??

What the hell am I going to do with 3 kids 😱 what if I've forgotten what to do with a newborn! What if we're all sleep deprived & me & OH start arguing out of frustration! I find it hard enough now to keep the place looking relatively decent let alone adding another persons stuff to the mix!

AND WHAT IF THEY DONT GIVE ME THE DAMN EPIDURAL 😱😱😱😱

Oh God yes, I woke a panic at 3.30am today wondering how on earth I'm going to manage to run my business and toddler along with a newborn. I have a wonderful DH, supportive family and amazing staff but if I think of all the things that could go wrong I could cry, but am trying very hard to focus on all the wonderful things that will happen and the joy new baby will bring and I literally cannot wait for her to arrive now so I can just get on with it all. I just hope all the things in my head are worse than the actual reality!
I find out on Thursday when I'm going to have her so at least I can start properly counting down.
Am 36 weeks now. Need to put last of the babygro's in baby's hospital bag and put it in my car ready, will do that this afternoon!

Argh I haven't done my hospital bag either!!

I'm 35 weeks but going b my last appointment I'll be going in at 39 weeks for a section if he's still breech or for an induction if he's turned.

Nothing is ready though! Still got cleaning & decorating to do!! Why am I so last minute! My mum is due to move further away at the end of this month so if I go in at 39 weeks, it won't be the school holidays so it'll be a faff trying to sort out my older 2 while I'm in hospital!

I've still got boxes of stock from my failed business hanging around at home so I need to get rid of all of it before I start having people coming round

Will you be having any time off from your business?

Yes! I'm 37 weeks with our first and today I suddenly had an overwhelming feeling of being underprepared and I couldn't even imagine the baby being here! Glad to know it's not just me

It must just be a thing that happens then, last minute freak outs before it all happens!

This morning I've sat here & cried my eyes out, literally sobbed my heart out at the thought of not being given the epidural. They have no real reason to refuse it I just don't want to be given the 'oh the anaesthetist is busy, you're too far along now' crap, because with will sue. I will sue them so hard 😫 I think I'm totally rational about my fear of the pain

God yes I forgot about visitors! Shit i really need to do some cleaning, carpets need doing and dd1's toys should really be sorted as it's chaos in the dining room - urgh I forgot about the bloody visitors, I think I'll be strict on when they come around this time, and will stipulate they must be cake
I'm not really taking time off as such, but I've delegated loads of my workload so I've got a supervisor monitoring stuff in the office/premises and then all of our clients have a nominated person to call other than me for a month, so in theory I will just have to answer the odd phone call and email and can stay home for a few weeks but then baby will be coming with me to the office, just for a couple of hours a few times a week at first. But you can bet your life someone will quit or have to be sacked or something will happen you balls it all up.... but we shall see!

I hope baby turns for you, my friend tried that spinning baby site (it didn't actually work though as she left it a bit late) but worth a shot! Have you been induced before? I'm going to be induced as I've got a whole host of issues, but am hoping process is quicker than my 1st as she took 3 days. Would love her to come of her own accord though, she's feeling very low and bump has dropped and braxton hicks have ramped up so fingers crossed!

I'm only 19 weeks and already panicking about the various scenarios in which I might not get my epidural!!!! 😱

Oh god sod having all that worry to deal with on top of all baby related stuff! I'd fail miserably haha!

Yes I was induced last time & I did like it. As you can tell I'm very very bad with the pain so the thought of knowing I'd already be in hospital, where all of the drugs are, and my epidural was pretty much a given as I'd had a meeting with the anaesthetist a few weeks before hand, relaxed me soooo much!

God yes if I have an induction I wouldn't want it without an epi (couldn't bloody do it, hurt like hell without!) Fingers crossed for both of us!!!

Then I'll have to start worrying about school runs. 2 different schools plus a baby who will probably want feeding etc right at that time. Oh god help me what am I gonna do 😱

People who have coped with all of this before. Come & give us your wisdom!

Oh god yes, at least once a week. They're not particularly last minute though as I'm only 26 weeks. It usually happens in the early hours when I'm having a wee. I think, for me, it's the realisation that, even on day trips, we're going to be fully outnumbered. 4= 2 each to wrangle, 5 means one of us will have to wrangle 3

My 3rd was breech until the very end, the mw was on the phone as she turned which was bloody painful 3 hours later I had a show, just under 5 hours after that she was in my arms.

I've had a lot of movement lately so I have a feeling he might have already turned, but will have to wait til 37 weeks to find out for sure!

I made myself laugh the other night, as you said in the night when I got up for a wee. Laid back down & felt the baby move, I literally froze & went cold & thought 'shit, there's an actual real life baby inside me!'

Yep, it's all that being up at an unnatural hour, sends the brain funny!

Not last minute here as I'm only 16 weeks! But it's my first and God, I'm so nervous. What if I don't feel movement? What if I no good with the baby? What if I end up feeling he deserves a better mum than me? And I made the mistake of reading the bad postnatal care thread

We're on holiday and I feel like an ungrateful pig, I should be relaxing and enjoying myself. But we're moving house 5 days after we get back and I kind of wish we weren't. Totally new area, won't be able to walk to work anymore. I feel like everything is changing so much and I don't have a 'safe' place anymore.

Oh I know it's easy for me to say but please use he holiday to relax & have a good time! You'll regret it when it's over & you're home & having to deal with moving

You're better off reading up on what can go wrong agentcooper IMO. I really think a lot of post birth trauma comes from FTMs being told by everyone it'll be all magic hearts and flowers and you don't even need pain relief just a bath will do

That is actually a very good point! The more prepared you are for changes of plan during the birth, or the fact that the ward afterwards might be full of selfish arseholes, the more likely you will be to deal with it better maybe.

Unfortunately me reading up about people not getting their epidurals in time is not doing me any favours

You're probably right, cupoftea but that postnatal thread made me feel physically sick (disclaimer - I do have an anxiety disorder anyway). Think I need to learn to just accept that there's a good chance it will be horrible and make my peace with that.

Nah it'll be fine, just get a lovely epidural like me and JonSnowsWhore!

Eurgh so much for getting my arse in gear & making a start on the mess seeing as we had the day free.

Have spent most of the day in bed with massive feet & (just the one) hand 😄 and feeling sick again. Why does pregnancy make me lazy to the point where I can't even bother to fold clothes or something!