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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Overdue and lost interest now

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hertsgirl1984 · 03/05/2017 10:12

So this is my second. First baby was the easiest pregnancy and super fast delivery on her due date.lucky me. After a large gap Im expecting the little boy I always wanted. Great. Except Im having a horrible time of it now. I am 41 weeks and 5 days. I started getting my first labour like pains at 37 weeks,had show, started dilating etc. A month later im still getting 6/7 strong contractions before stopping again twice a day. Ive had 3 sweeps we make me sore and bleed and I just wish I had opted for an elective c-section at 39 weeks(my friend does this) as I would be well on my way to feeling normal by now. I hate being pregnant with a passion, Im told I should count my blessings as I have low blood pressure, no pelvic floor issues, veins, pains etc but I feel gross and walk like a duck so I refuse to go out in public for weeks now as I feel people staring at me and cant stand it. As for my family and friends bugging me with calls asking the same stupid questions I have actually stopped answering the phone. I miss my partner so terribly when hes at work, im so incredibly lonely. And my older child is a teenager so we dont discuss anything except her need for money and I obviously cant let her see me upset so Im avoiding her as much as I can. Also, I really dont want to breastfeed now,the idea makes me feel ill because after the birth I just want to rest and take painkillers and let my partner do everything because I need to begin to feel like me again. I have cleaned, repainted and organized everything in my home to ridiculous levels and done it again and again. Im so bored of this that once baby is out I feel like leaving them to it and taking myself away on holiday. Until a few weeks ago I was so happy and looking forward to baby and spent hours each day bonding with my bump and dreamily imagining those early weeks I cant even picture us together now. Whats happened ? could the stop start labour be connected to this as Oxytocin seems non-exsistent in my physiology at the moment,

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pennysays · 03/05/2017 16:49

Hi OP,

I think the final weeks can be really miserable especially when you're overdue. It's natural to feel fed up, sad, bored and not particularly looking forward to labour if you've already done it before.

The truth is, there's not much to be done about the situation now so the only the to do is distract yourself or try and change your mind set. You're pregnant, baby will be here soon and when they arrive the chances are you'll feel so in love all the thoughts of leaving your newborn got a holiday will go out the window! But don't worry about it now, your body is designed to, for the most part, make you love your baby unconditionally.

Pampering and distraction is the best plan: box sets, videos games, yoga/meditation, books, whatever floats your boat.

Obviously if you still feel blue after your baby arrives then you must talk to someone. And if thinking about breastfeeding is stressing you out then get some formula ready and decide later on!

Keep taking to us on here too!

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