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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Anyone else struggling with sickness and work?

15 replies

OnNaturesCourse · 02/05/2017 22:49

Im only 10 weeks so my manager knows but not my colleagues.

I'm super sick feeling, and gag at everything. I'm exhausted with it. How did you all cope? I feel like curling into a ball under my desk.

😟

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KavvLar · 02/05/2017 23:06

You poor thing. I had horrendous sickness with both pregnancies. You can get anti sickness meds from the doctor which may help a bit. Also don't be afraid to take time off sick if you need to or work from home if you can. And remember it doesn't last forever. Good luck and congratulations on the pregnancy.

OnNaturesCourse · 02/05/2017 23:21

I have antisickness but they tend to come back up whole 😟

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OnNaturesCourse · 02/05/2017 23:22

Sorry posted too early.

I've also had 30+ sick days in the last 12 months. Most taken in one stint as I had a kidney problem. So sick days are out of the question unfortunately. I'm already over trigger for my company 😟

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KavvLar · 03/05/2017 00:41

Check your company policy but you may well find that pregnancy related sickness absence cannot be counted towards triggers and are logged for administrative purposes only. It's certainly the case in a lot of the civil service but I don't know if it's law or just company policy. Worth checking anyway.

KavvLar · 03/05/2017 00:45

Nope I was right it is law.

Can my employer dismiss me if I take sick leave during pregnancy?
No, it is automatic unfair dismissal and pregnancy discrimination to dismiss a woman for a reason connected to her pregnancy. This applies from day one of your employment and regardless of how many hours you work. Casual workers, agency workers, freelancers and self-employed women are also protected against discrimination

Source:

www.maternityaction.org.uk/advice-2/mums-dads-scenarios/pregnant/sickness-during-pregnancy-and-maternity-leave/

KavvLar · 03/05/2017 00:46

And

You have the same rights to paid sick leave as any other employee (apart from the last four weeks of pregnancy, see next question). If you are not well during your pregnancy, you should follow your employer’s normal sickness reporting procedures. Your employer must record any pregnancy-related sickness absence separately from other sick leave, so that pregnancy-related sickness absence is not used as a reason for disciplinary action, dismissal or redundancy.

OnNaturesCourse · 03/05/2017 03:57

Thank you.

I find it all quite complicated!

I'm now concerned as it states if I'm off sick it could effect my SMP as it's worked out on average wages for two months prior to maternity leave, did I understand that correctly?

It is good about pregnancy sickness being recorded separately.

I don't like being off sick but I am really struggling, I wouldn't have been in today if it weren't for the sheer fear of being dismissed.

Thank you for your help so far!

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mummabubs · 03/05/2017 07:08

As Kavvlar says it doesn't count- I'm currently 17.5 weeks and have been vomiting every day since 8 weeks. I work in the NHS and thankfully my team have been really supportive to either letting me work from home or take the day to rest (/vom!) on a fair few occasions, none of it counts towards sickness policy thresholds. Hope you feel better soon OP x

OnNaturesCourse · 03/05/2017 08:58

Thank you. I got a grand total of 4 hours sleep last night from being in bed from 10 to now. DP snores awfully and pregnancy has turned me into a light cat napper. I've felt sick since 5am which hasn't helped 😟 completely at my witts end. Off into work but just going to see how I go x

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Sweetpea86 · 03/05/2017 10:16

Aww I feel for you so bad. I'm 37 weeks still sick. This is my 2nd pregnancy and it hasn't been as bad this time ( although still awful)

Yes like other said get some anti sickness meds they didn't clear it but it does take the edge off.

It's so hard because people don't understand how hard it is to function. I hope it goes during your pregnancy. Because it's the worst thing I've ever dealt with Sad

OnNaturesCourse · 03/05/2017 11:30

I just feel completely drained but keep being told "pregnancy is not an illness" 😟👊

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KavvLar · 03/05/2017 12:56

I get it OP, and you have my sympathies. I had that with my first. I'd joined a new team, a very unsympathetic groupwho made me feel ten times worse, let alone all the pressure I was putting on myself .

No, pregnancy is not an illness. But it can present with symptoms that are debilitating, just like an illness. If something is making you unwell, that's good enough for me to describe it as illness.

Some women sail through pregnancy, others feel a tiny bit nauseous for an hour a day for two or three weeks. Yet others struggle dreadfully with horrible relentless sickness, or SPD, or gestational diabetes, or any number of complications. I found, sadly, women from the first two groups were often the quickest to judge - having had straightforward pregnancies they assumed i must have been making a fuss.

So I had a frank conversation where I explained I had been constantly nauseous and vomiting for twenty weeks, that I hadn't had a proper meal in that time, that I couldn't always keep the anti sickness meds down, that I constantly felt like I was on a listing boat, that I was dehydrated and had had to go on a drip. I said it was not the same thing as feeling ropy for an hour in the morning and having to have a ginger biscuit. and I was ready to stab the next person who said 'ooh have you tried ginger biscuits'

Fuck 'pregnancy is not an illness'. Have courage in your convictions and remember a lot of people still don't fully understand how bad it can be. Your HR department will though, I'm sure of it.

OnNaturesCourse · 03/05/2017 13:00

I've managed 3 hours and through actual, physical sickness I'm seriously considering going home. I'm just exhausted and like you say I don't think I've kept a proper meal down in about 4 weeks plus I got a UTI on top of it all last week.

I feel like I need to be at breaking point to justify any absence

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Sweetpea86 · 03/05/2017 14:44

Yeah my manager told me pregnancy is not an illness. Stupid bloke who spoke before he thought. He's a nice guy normally just was being so insensitive. I've never felt so poorly until I've been pregnant both times. You have rights.
I find if you tell people they start saying things like it won't be long or you will forget about it when baby is here. Not very comforting when you still have 30 weeks to go.

Hugs

OnNaturesCourse · 03/05/2017 14:49

Thank you sweetpea.

I've to eat something and see if I feel better, if not I can just go home x

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