First timers – are you considered a Mother for Mother's Day?

[nh101]

My mum has convinced my dad, my DH and all my three sisters' DHs to do all the work on Mother's Day at her house next week (cooking the lunch for 10 adults, five kids and doing the cleaning up afterwards). They are all mums but I am only 12 weeks PG. I said to my mum "But I am not a mother" and she said "You are! You are doing the most important job of a mother"

I don't mind, if it means I can sit on my bum all day I think it's great! And I suppose I do get tired...

Are any of you other first-timers getting a Mother's Day?

I went out for a meal on Mother's Day when I was pregnant, quite heavily at that itme, with my mum and my MIL. All the Mothers were given flowers and chocolate at the restaurant, and they manager/waitresses treated me as a Mother, even though DD hadn't been born.

Oh yes, most definately - and you can get "mother-to-be" cards too

I brought my SIL a bump card (had same lovely words in it) that said "mum-to-be" on it when she was PG with her DS, she really loved it and I've told DH to get me one form this LO this M-day, LOL!

My first is due on mother's day. So my husband said he is going to get me a card and present even if I go overdue. But my MIL said last week I won't count as I won't have given birth yet.

MILs are great for comments like that

Of COURSE you are

And don't let anyone say otherwise!!

She said the other day she would understand if we couldn't go and see her on sunday even though she would be disappointed. It was made to sound like it would be all my fault if I was in labour.

But on the other hand my mum says she will get me a Barry Manilow cd as when I was round yesterday we saw loads of adverts saying that every mother loved him

I might just try that

I might be odd then because it hadn't even crossed my mind that mothers' day might apply to me. DH asked if I'd be wanting anything and I was a bit surprised as hadn't even thought about it, and said no. Even after thinking about it, I still say no. Being a mum-to-be is enough for now, and I'm happy to look forward to getting my first mother's day card next year.

(Actually to be fair it will be my 2nd mother's day card, as when we were students many years ago me and another friend decided that my DH, who was just a mate then, needed some mothering. So we "adopted him" and bless him, he sent us mothers' day cards! When we later got "involved" we decided we'd better forget the whole mother thing though! )

Hi NH - I'm in the same boat as you and I've told dh I'm expecting flowers on mothers day! hahahaha! I've got my midwives booking in appointment that morning so if I don't feel like a mother then, I don't know when I will (apart from when i've got a toddler screaming at me!!!)

Happy mothers day to us all

x

I agree Jamantha - I don't mind being spoiled this Mother's Day but I am REALLY looking forward to next Mother's Day when my baby will be here!

I was in labour for the entirety of my "first" Mothers Day (started Saturday, ds1 born 5am Monday.

If you have the chance of sitting down doing nothing, take it!

I missed mothers day by 2 weeks the first time I was pg and no one got me anything or treated me like a mother. I was quite disappointed. DH made up for it when dd was born though. He bought me some presents and a card.

My DS was born a few weeks after mothers day and my DH said that i wasnt a mother because i didnt have a baby... obviously i stood pointing at my huge belly with a sarcastic expression on my face still didnt work... he has no excuses now though!

I tried to convince DH that it counted, but he wasn't really taking it - especially as my birthday the week after
But my mum said it definitely counts!

To my absolute and utter surprise I got a mothers day card from bump. Dp isnt really the soppy type and it was so unexpected that it resulted in 20 mins of sobbing.
Card said 'Mummy Rules' on the front, and inside he had written out 10 rules from himself, oops, I mean from lo.
Stuff like:
Dont strap me to Dads front, it makes us all look bad.

Please leave me with my grandparents for long periods of time, while you and dad go on holiday, its really important you still have fun.

Please dont film my birth, theres parts of you that I dont need to ever see apart from that day.

Etc etc.

God its official. Weve both lost it.

I think that's so sweet! Also highly emotional at the moment. My DP was away but my mum and dad sent me an e-card which had me in tears at work, lucky I was the only one here!

I wasn't yet pregnant for last year's Mother's Day but I was about 2 months pregnant when Father's Day came around so I sent DP a card through the post and signed it with one of the jokey names that we were thinking of for bump at that time. I was convinced though that we were having a boy and 7 months later DD was born. Have kept the card and will show it to her when she's older - hope it doesn't give her an identity complex!